Social Media, I needed a break.

Social Media have been part of our lives for some time now.

In the case you don't relate, you're probably in another level of spirituality or something, congrats mate!

There are people that make a living from social media, which means that there are benefits from it, however, it can also be a harmful tool if you don’t use it carefully.

Not being a hater... I mean, have accounts on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and even on Tumblr (if it is even considered social media).

About a year ago, I realized that maybe I was getting slightly addicted to social media and that they were doing me more harm than good.

There was a time I was so into Social Media, that I was posting at least one story per day on Instagram, like… who did I think I was? An Influencer?

Abominable, for me, every time I remember I was thinking like this but…

Oh, but that’s not all, I was extreme at the point of having TWO Instagram accounts, a common one and another known as finsta — have you ever heard of this concept? - it means like fake Instagram, is the one you share with your besties and people you are more open with, usually 40 people maximum.

I think that at the time I was hungry for attention, desperately waiting for reactions to my “content”.

I got to the point of being sad when I didn’t get any feedback, thinking that my own friends don’t view me as an interesting person anymore.

A little bit dramatic, don’t you think so?

Comparisons

Apart from draining uptime, it was also draining my confidence.

Always comparing myself with others, with what they were doing, the restaurants they would go to, that I also wanted to go and share, the fantastic body someone had that could never be my own body, the clothes I could never buy, and so on…

So, I started figuring out that the way I was “doing Social Media” wasn’t right. It was not right for me.

I saw the documentary on Netflix that triggered me, you must have heard of, The Social Dilemma, which explained the negative impacts of social media. Also, there is one episode on Black Mirror that illustrates a few of the cons it can have, season 3 episode 1.

I started to move away little by little, occupying my time with phone games, sudoku, hanging out with my family, reading, walking, …

My mind was thinking in a different way, I could perceive some development in a short time.

The problem is not looking at others, the problem is the way you do it.

Influencers can be a huge help for you if you set up your mind right.

I realized I can learn from them instead of being kind of jealous.

The thing is:

Learn to love where you're at, while you plan where you want to be.

How?

If I saw someone traveling, for example, I would search for how was that person hustling to get that reward. If I saw someone with a physique that I wanted to have, I would investigate what was that person eating, how many times per week did this person work out.

I became more productive, not consuming that much content and when I did it I made sure it was something helpful, or that I made it helpful.

Starting to notice my progress, I stopped relying on others to notice me, I started to notice myself more and be more grateful, which improved my self-esteem.

Have you ever wondered about the impact something so simple could have on you?

Thank you so much for reading, have a nice day! 🌞