"Silence is the best answer"

I recently saw a deeply thought-provoking quote that I feel is particularly relevant in today's world of hyper-communication where so many people write, record, post, send, comment, or in some other way share so many opinions and perspectives on a daily basis. The quote is this: "Silence is the best answer to someone who doesn't value your words."

With that thought in mind, I'd like to share a portion of an article:

Calvin Coolidge, the 30th President of the United States, was infamous for his taciturn ways, earning him the nickname "Silent Cal." But Coolidge wasn't quiet because he was extremely introverted or inarticulate - on the contrary, he was a highly visible president who entertained countless guests at the White House and proved to be a capable public communicator, holding frequent press conferences and speaking on the radio.

So why did he say so little during normal conversation? One thing Coolidge did say was, "No man ever listened himself out of a job." Coolidge was a listener, not a talker. He realize the value of saying less and listening more.

It is in human nature to want to be heard; we all desire attention and recognition to some degree. Even if you don't have a loquacious demeanor, like most of us you probably enjoy offering you "two-cents" and interjecting your own opinions and insights during conversation. For most, it

takes much less discipline to speak than to refrain from speaking.

Speaking less and listening more has multiple benefits. By "keeping your mouth shut" you might very well keep yourself out of trouble - many a sticky situation could be averted if only certain things weren't said. And I would also argue that it is better for people to think you're reserved than to judge you as ignorant thanks to a foolish comment. As Coolidge wisely noted, "If you don't say anything, you won't be called on to repeat it."

Say less, listen more, and keep in mind one more quote from the 30th U.S President: "I have never been hurt by what I have not said."

According to Dalai Lama:-

It can actually be one of the most meaningful replies that you can ever give to someone without actually making use of any words. Whether you would agree or not, you can actually make someone understand your feelings or emotions without even uttering a word by your mouth.

Many a time, we keep on nagging around things just because we want to put forward our point, but we tend to forget that fact that people only listen as much as they want to listen.

Although it is easier said than done, often in life we get into situations that things aren't under our control or probably there's no use of trying hard to make the ends meet. That's where we should learn to remain silent. It is essential to realize weapon to use in such a situation.

"Sometimes you have to stay silent because no words can explain what is going on in your mind and in your heart."

Of course, you will not want to make a fool of yourself by firing back with the trash thrown by your mouth. Certainly not! That's when you should better choose to remain silent. Silence is a slap that can knock the senses in other's minds. It has got a lot of power. All you need is to understand when to use this weapon.

On the other hand, you should also take care of not making a fool of yourself. Just as it is futile to make fools understand (people who don't even have an intention to analyze and figure out if they went wrong somewhere), the same goes otherwise too!.

Ignorance in such a situation is showcase of your maturity. Although you do not send words, silence still remains to be one of the most intellectual answers. "Let your actions speak and reveal the truth, why waste your voice on such insignificant tasks?"

Best advice in two lines:

"Silence is the best answer for all questions"

"Smiling is the best reaction in all situations"

On the other note, instead of speaking trash in anger and frustration, try to remain calm and composed. Why make a fool of yourself by overreacting when other's aren't ready to accept the things as they are? You need not be defensive at times. This is because you know that no matter what others say about you, they are totally irrelevant and you hardly care about them...