If You Want to Stay Happy, Keep These Things to Yourself

Why Oversharing Can Harm Your Happiness and How to Guard Your Joy

Stop telling people your business. Some people talk to you so they can talk about you. — Nipsey Hussle

How can I stop telling others, and when should I realize I am an oversharer?

There is a gray line.

Pay attention to minor things, especially when the debate turns one-sided.

Think about your privacy.

Don’t share it.

People can use it against you.

My granny used to say.

There is a reason we have two ears and one mouth: listen more and talk less.

How and when to stop

Don’t disclose your vulnerability.

People will use it against you in the future.

I love to celebrate my successes with family and friends after obtaining them.

Don’t disclose when you start.

I don’t share my future plans with anyone but myself.

I started several projects in the past; all failed.

I acquired excellent things, but the primary lesson I learned was that I was oversharing.

I only discuss my side hustle after attaining specific results.

First, I formed a practice of building the business with 100% effort, and if it still needed to work out.

Then there is no use in sharing; if it turned out, it’s time to organize a family BBQ.

I will dine at the restaurant unless I have to offer a hefty tip.

You are not eating at the restaurant to make someone happy or give a hefty tip.

My father-in-law has a basic concept regarding tipping that I follow all the time. If the food is wonderful and the waiter is extremely proactive about everything and also nice, I'll offer a good tip.

And if the service is adequate, there is absolutely no tip. With this approach, I enter each eatery.

Now the issue arises: do I have to provide a tip each time despite the amazing service?

The basic answer is no.

Pleasing others?

Never put the secret to your happiness in someone else.- Unknown

Don’t modify your style of living to make your parents or friends pleased.

Please don’t spend your life doing something you despise only to make someone happy, or they will feel good.

That is a loser's mentality. I don't care what other people think, and trust me, most of the time they are even thinking about you.

Prioritize your pleasure over everything. When you are happy, you will make other people happy; it's not going to work the other way around.

I don’t like to share my material belongings.

I like to keep my act of compassion hidden.

You don’t need to share or boast about it.

I used to express my problems in studying hard to go ahead in life.

I used to believe it may encourage someone, but I don’t do it. I think my character is enough to motivate.

Stop and establish this practice of contributing before you speak. Meditation can benefit you a lot. I tried it for 30 days. Make a list of safe subjects to talk about. Does the person you are sharing with need to do it first? Develop a rereading habit before you send messages, emails, blogs, etc.

Emotions

Recognize your oversharing feelings.

Before giving personal information, consider if that person “needs to know” and what they may do with it.

Be an active listener; let the other person perform the talking portion.

It’s completely good to chat all the time.

Keep your replies short.

When you overshare, you open yourself up to criticism and judgment from others.

The ending thoughts

Joy comes not via possession or ownership but through a wise and loving heart. Buddha

If you only focus on the natural method to be joyful, listen more and talk less. No one is going to assist you in figuring out what actually makes you happy. You have to introspect and find out what makes you happy.

Here is a short experiment.

• Go for a lengthy stroll, preferably in nature.
• Think, when was the last time you were actually happy?
• What made you happy?
• Is there a way to replicate it?
• Is it worth it? Take the time to reflect on these questions and really delve deep into your emotions and memories. Sometimes, true happiness can be found in the simplest of things that bring us joy. By taking the time to focus on what truly makes us happy, we can create a life filled with contentment and peace. So, remember to listen to your heart and trust in your own instincts when it comes to finding joy in life.