"You should know that you are here to work, not to make friends", it's just work, don't consume yourself

Recently, I have often heard friends around me talk about their workplace anxiety. Some people do not understand why the other party does not have something to say and always makes them guess, some people do not understand why people do not get along well and create an anxious atmosphere of gossip and rumor every day, some people do not understand why there are always people who like to guess randomly about themselves and are not willing to communicate properly.

As someone who has been in the workplace for over ten years, I can relate to all these problems. Things that we think are simple become very complicated when placed in the workplace, and relationships that we think could have gone well become very delicate when placed in the workplace.

You can say who has the problem, I think everyone does. People who can't get along with you, who always make simple things complicated, who hurt others with their own called workplace laws, but who are also troubling themselves. And you too think of the workplace as too simple and even put too much heart into it, so you keep consuming yourself internally.

A workplace is a place where we come to work, where we come to get paid properly and move on with our lives, not to make friends and even expect people to love us.

I've been in the workplace for so many years and I don't have many genuine friends because I've figured this out a long time ago and so I'm much more relieved.

As for the twists and turns in the workplace, it's better to understand that some people treat the workplace as a battlefield, always hoping to achieve some goals here through some means, but if you don't take the bait and ignore them, they naturally can't hurt you.

To put it bluntly, it is the conviction that work is work and nothing else has anything to do with you. If others want to guess and misunderstand, then let them go, don't care, and let yourself walk the workplace with a more independent attitude, I think so that you can keep yourself away from internal conflicts and live a more relaxed and happy life.

If you don't know how to do this, then come and share a few of my tips with you.

Define what you want in the workplace

Understanding what you want in the workplace is your first step to staying away from internal conflict in the workplace.

Think about it, many people in the workplace their positioning is not clear, and want to work well to get money, and want to and colleagues, and want to let the leadership appreciate themselves.

So many unrealistic expectations are the source of your pain because there are really few people who can do this, and those who can get all of this are often very tired.

If you feel you can handle the tiredness, then you can cross away and not look, but if you feel you can't, just listen to me from this moment on and get clear on what your goals are in the workplace before you go and work for yourself.

I believe that most of us enter the workplace just to make money, so don't think too much about it, do the job in front of you and get the money you deserve, that's enough, as for the rest, it's none of your business, don't get involved or care.

When you have this mindset, you will be less miserable because you will no longer care about the rest and will even understand that it is normal to go through all these things because you can earn money to match it.

Remember, focus on the work itself and you'll have less internal conflict, and with less internal conflict you'll have more joy.

Don't worry about what others think

Most people who are prone to internal conflict in the workplace are sensitive and care about what other people think and think, and even want everyone to like them.

But honey, you're not yuan, so why should you ask everyone to like you, and some people don't even like the money?

Whether people like you or not has nothing to do with what kind of person you are. If you care too much about what others think, you will only lose your most authentic self.

I have seen many people who have lost their selves in the workplace and ended up muddling through and being internally consumed to the point of a distorted mindset, and that isn't worth it.

Be your true self, be self-accepting from the inside, and don't worry about how others throw dirt or stab you, time will give everyone the right answer, and if you are gold, sooner or later everyone will see it.

The most important thing is, don't rush to explain and prove yourself, in the workplace, this will make you more and more black, rather than a little bit of openness, gain my fortune, loss of my life, enough.

It is important to improve your ability

Everyone's core competency in the workplace determines how far you can go, and also determines what kind of mentality you can have in the workplace.

I know a "ghostwriter", although a little temper, but their ability is very outstanding, so even if there are many people who say he is this bad and that bad, eventually most people still recognize him.

After all, in the workplace, the ability is still king, those who can make small moves are not always able to hold a job, and those who can hold a job will always be looked at highly by others.

The best way is to do what you need to do and spend the rest of your time improving yourself.

Remember, as long as you keep growing, the workplace will not abandon you.

Understand that many things are not your fault

In the workplace, there are bound to be many people whose comments and attitudes make you uncomfortable. You don't know what their motives are, but it should be clear that they aim to make you uncomfortable.

When faced with such people, don't be influenced to start wondering if there is something wrong with you, and you will then be caught in an internal conflict.

You have to be firm in your choices and know that you are doing the right thing, and as for the ill will that others inflict on you, let them be.

When you don't care as much, the other person will naturally feel bored and go on to find the next person you can PUMA, which is the best way for you to protect yourself.

Run hard forward, only when you have the wind in your ears can you not hear these vicious and boring words. Run hard forward, only when you go higher and further can you get away from these boring people.

Be firm in your heart

Being strong and determined inside is a standard part of walking in the workplace, because we will always encounter strange people and boring things in the workplace, and if you care about every one of them, you will inevitably fall into internal conflict, which will eventually hurt you.

Keep a strong heart, laugh at all the malice and bashing, keep your heart strong and do what you need to do.

I always say that time will give you the answer, and this isn't chicken soup. After all these years, I understand that I have done a lot of things right in the workplace, but I have also done a lot of things wrong.

And the people who appreciate me have always liked me, and those who don't like me, or are even jealous of me, will still hate me no matter what I do.

So why care, why change yourself for these people and things, be the best you can be so that you can have no regrets. As for work, just work hard and in the process make yourself stronger inside, isn't that also a good thing?

Work is very simple, it's just working to earn money and growing up in the process. If you can figure this out, you naturally won't get tangled up and suffer in the workplace.

I hope everyone can understand that the workplace is for work, not for making friends, not for leisure and entertainment, and not for your satisfaction.

The most important thing is not to internalize, not to hurt yourself, treat your work as part of your life and not all of it, and you will have more happiness.