You're so angry, you're probably incompetent

Having dinner with the crew, we talked about a certain star who used to have good resources and now can only play supporting roles in second-rate dramas. "When people are popular, they are under a lot of pressure, and they don't know how to relieve it, so their temper is getting worse and worse, and they get angry a lot. When people get angry, they become stupid, so ......" the director shook his head.

　　For his last sentence, I am very interested. Follow the conversation and ask, why people become stupid when they get angry?

　　"Brain cells are too busy to get angry ah. When quarrelling, the one who is angry is definitely not winning the quarrel, seriously you will lose. Like you girls, usually do not say dirty words, can only hold a stomach back, woke up in the middle of the night gas, a pat on the thigh, how I did not say so at the time? But at that time is not, because you are too angry, only emotions, no intelligence. Fighting is different, generally is angry with the fierce people hit hard, out of life a lifetime will be ruined, or stupid."

　　After listening to his words, the unanimous feeling is that the quarrel that said too much image, we are all such people.

　　It is often said that people with high emotional intelligence are very fake, obviously angry, but also pretend that nothing is the same, certainly suffocated internal injuries. The one who can hold back the internal injuries is the one who doesn't want to understand, and the one who really wants to understand, will never be hurt internally. The thing that is good for you, who is not willing to do it?

　　One day, I ran into a friend, talking about another friend of some things, I was struck, this is not a backstabbing, rob me of resources? It just so happens that I saw her at an event in the afternoon, and she was chatting with me like nothing else, and my heart was burning with anger, but I held my tongue. What I can say now must be questioning words, once the questioning begins, no matter what the final result, in the other party's heart will leave a shadow, and finally explain to understand are useless.

　　I finished the event safely by saying "don't make decisions when you're angry" in my heart.

　　A week later, she suddenly called me and asked me to go to a dinner party where there was someone I particularly wanted to meet. "I know you want to interview her, so maybe I can get a date today." She said.

　　At the end of the meal, she took me home and offered to talk about the incident that was haunting me. I said, "I already know." She was silent for a while and told me she didn't mean it and hoped we could still be friends. I said of course.

　　This thing ended up the way I ideally wanted it to, and what made it happen was the same person I ideally wanted to be.

　　Never make a decision when you are angry, when your decision must be lacking in consideration. Even when you are angry, I suggest you do not speak, because every word you say, not out of reason and heart, but emotions and venting. Many things that were going in a good direction, may be because of your emotional state of loss of control of a few heavy words, make it go in a bad direction.

　　When you are angry, what you have to do is not to theorize, but to eliminate anger. There are many ways to take the edge off. Call a friend who has nothing to do with the matter, eat some chocolate and nibble on a chicken leg, go out on the balcony and blow off some steam, take a bike ride around the boulevard. If it is a relationship that must be confronted, deal with it after the anger has subsided; if it is a person who does not need to be confronted at all after the anger has subsided, there is even less need to get angry and quarrel.

　　The higher you stand, the less likely you are to get angry. Sometimes, it may be worthwhile to artificially elevate yourself, because I am more senior and superior than you, so how you make, I do not bother to get angry. Such a realm will make you look smart, outstanding, and meet good luck.

　　People who love to get angry are actually angry at their own incompetence, so the weak are more likely to get angry. And because they get angry easily, they will mess up a lot of things and always be in the position of the weak. To break this closed loop, start by trying to control your emotions. When you can control your emotions, don't get angry easily, and especially don't make decisions when you're angry, you are, in a sense, already stronger than many people.

　　Strong people are not born strong, but become strong step by step. We can all become better versions of ourselves, as long as you do not have the peace of mind to stay in the lowlands and compete with fools to win or lose.