Who Is Afraid of Resignation?

You are stressed, insecure, you have lost all trace of passion and enthusiasm, everything has become hard work. And yet, the prospect of resignation frightens you.

Why is your resignation scary?

It's almost like a marriage: women are not taught to take decisive steps - they are usually advised to always be patient. Sigh and move on. We live in an unstable society and the prospect of unemployment is terrifying. But we are just as scared that we might lose our self-esteem or, why not, our weekly massage at a luxury salon.

And that's just the "internal" war. But outside? There are many souls eager to help you, relatives and benevolent friends full of advice: “You have nowhere to run, it's like that everywhere, if not worse; bosses exist in the world to make you feel a negligible amount, and colleagues - to stab you in the back ”.

The arguments that push you to resign are completely irrational, to take care of your business, to put your mind in your head. Gather and judge in the cold.

Do you feel humiliated and minimized? Woman's whims! Sometimes, family amplifies your fear and makes you feel more miserable than when you break up a romantic relationship: you still find a man, but a job in the center and with meal vouchers.

Fear of change

No matter how daring you look, you're afraid. There are also emotional reasons: you got involved a lot, you became attached to the environment and to your colleagues (it was my way of making you happy!). You remember happy moments: a comforting hug, an interesting coffee break conversation, a disturbing confession, an unexpected gift, a no-nonsense joke on a casual Friday.

If you have decided to communicate your decision to the bosses, you must do so firmly. Friendly parting ?! Nonsense. You will most likely be blackmailed; not brutal, but sentimental - that is, much more perverse.

Alas, you are indispensable; from now on, you will be appreciated at its true value; they will complain that the company is collapsing without your presence. They will end up confessing how much they need you - an argument, in their view, infallible for female sensitivity. Is it a matter of money? It is solved, at the first salary.

Pink descriptions of the next five years will follow, you will have tender smiles and the vision of a service car drawn to scale. Why so late? Only now do they realize how unhappy you are. They made you feel mentally unstable and ungrateful - you leave them after they have invested so much in your training as if it were a charity and not a capitalist business.

Empty jump

You don't want to feel sorry for yourself indefinitely, like those eternally unhappy people who always moan about how awful they feel at work as if they were being held there with a gun. You want to get out from under the salt.

You resigned and had a short "black" period. After the euphoria, you plunged into regrets and guilt complexes. But in a short time, you will find a job and everything will be better than you expected.

The courage to say no

If instinct tells you to do it, do it! It may be the best medicine for your mood. When you make up your mind, beware of toxic friends, who are eager to tell you that you are doing well and that if anyone needs to be sympathetic, they are.

Be brave, don't be intimidated, don't believe in overnight conversion of superiors. The service is recovering, the neurons are. And money means nothing without mental comfort and self-respect. Sounds like a cliché, but what is a cliché but a truth too often invoked and then forgotten?