When Winging it Becomes a Problem

I am terrible at preparing for anything. Most of the time it’s because I have no idea how to prepare or what to expect. Because of this I’ve developed a habit of just winging it. With practically anything. Job interviews, trips, test, school projects where I had to present… that was a big one. My anxiety was so bad during school it would only make since for me to try to prepare, but me not even wanting to present left me waiting until I had no choice and with nothing fully prepared. Somehow in my mind just winging it was better than being prepared. It’s like I was trying to skip anxiety yet adding to it.

This was my motto. Just do it and get it done, had turned into just wing it and do it whether you’re ready or not. This was my mistake. Its never a good idea to thrust yourself into a situation when you aren’t ready for what comes at you. It would make more sense if I were actually calm in a situation, but my anxiety didn’t allow that.

“Winging it and just seeing what happens” During my brief period of calm during school, I would try really hard to convince myself that everything is fine no matter what happens. It was almost like those memes where someone would be in a really bad situation, but they’re so far gone they just don’t care anymore. This is where my long line of winging had led to, potentially not caring. And it wasn’t that I just had no regard for what happened to me, but I convinced myself to be so chill in order to calm myself down in many situations where I would full on panic and be so overwhelmed.

With job interviews all I knew was that I had to know something about the company before the interview, however I didn’t know what or why it was important. Eventually I decided to do a little more research in order to help myself so I’m not constantly stumbling over my words or taking 2-minute pauses before being able to barley answer a question. Someone who have helped me with this concept is a youtuber by the name of Dan Lok. Here is the first video I viewed and one of the many that helped me pass one of my most recent job interviews https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5v-wyR5emRw&list=PL4yooFBg079LekA5fmkMcOg_vBrpWdtmk&index=77&ab_channel=DanLok

Learning to prepare for job interviews was one of the many things I began learning to prepare in my life. After going to through life just winging it and letting things pass, I’ve learned that preparation is extremely important. The phase of just doing things without preparing was really getting tiresome and I needed to stop. I was activity sabotaging my chances of proper success.

I’m still not the most organized person or someone who just carries around a planner. But I realized its necessary in my life to not get lost and overwhelmed by everyday task, jobs, and issues I have to work on. In order to function better and have some stability, planning has helped me do those things. I don’t always follow a set plan for the day but I typically have some sort plan for the week. Not just is it important to have some type of plan when life gets busy, but just being prepared in general for the future when you don’t have any money saved for things once vaguely planned out in my head. Also I've realized if I want things, then I have to prepare to be able to get them. Rarely do things come free or are given out, especially if you come from a lower class family.