Stop Using 'N' Words If You Want To Feel Better

So many words in the English language carry a heavy weight that speaking English without creating a problem for yourself or others almost requires a secondary class in speaking English. It wasn't always like this, according to some who say it all started with the "woke" and the 21st century. Or, was it always this way, and people only now are accepting the truth? 

There's power in words. Words may form beautiful thoughts and invoke loving memories in our minds. They can uplift our spirits and motivate us to do the impossible. The words spoken by leaders can bring a nation together or oppositely keep a nation like the United States divided and easier to control. 

What about the everyday words that affect us all on some level? Have you ever considered how changing the way you use some words might change you? Would you consider exchanging one word for another if you knew it could have a profound effect on your life? 

Eliminate the 'N' words and their connotations from your mindset and explore how the use of words sets a tone for your reality. 

Words To Eliminate 

Try changing the use of some words to enhance your levels of positivity. To do that, start by using less of the 'N,' or negative words. When you eliminate the words that slow you down then you can see what happens around you and how you change and grow. 

Examples: 

When you set a goal or develop a dream, how do you vocalize that future? Some people choose to believe in their vision and others don't allow it to become a vision as much as an idea. What's the one-word difference between the two types? 

If statements versus when statements separate the dreamers from the doers. To count the number of if statements that I've used would take a lifetime. However, whenever it was a when statement it was from a point I had a clear vision of what needed to be done, how to do it, and the faith that I was capable. 

Simply changing "If I become president someday," in the mind of a child to, "When I become president," changes the potential for that idea to transform into a plan, then a reality. If creates a questionable idea. When statements suppose an event happening at a future date. 

Can't Versus Can is another good example of the weight that words carry. Have you ever done something you swore you can't do? How often do you remember when someone said they couldn't do something and they did that thing?

Like the little engine that could, when we think or believe that we can the doors of possibility open. Positive statements create a belief that we can achieve our goals and dreams. I can do it even sounds more positive than I can't, much less the difference in the effect of believing what you're saying. 

One of the most powerful things about words is that they can instill hope into the readers, the users, and the believers. If you believe something is impossible and nothing changes you have placed an infinite amount of power in a word, practically wearing the word like shackles. Training your mind to believe anything is possible, or that very little is impossible, frees you from the restraints of the word impossible. 

Remember the phrase "Never say never." There are certain times when it is alright to say never. You might never eat sugared cereals or drink soda. Perhaps you never watched Star Wars. 

"I'm never going to be happy," or "I'm never going to find love," or "She'll never make it," however, are examples of 'N' words that put restraints on a person's ability. Never statements are often used to describe situations or circumstances in which people struggle with something about life. And again, if you believe that you'll never be or it will never happen, you relinquish an infinite amount of power to the words. 

Examine some other examples and imagine how the feelings, the picture, and the world might all change or feel different. 

Hate changes to dislike - we don't have to like everything or everyone. Try this with something you "hate" for a while. See if it lifts a burden or weight from your soul. 

Won't change to maybe - we might not think something will happen, but thinking maybe or being open to the possibility provides a more positive context.

Fear can change to uncertainty - since we as a species fear things we don't understand or don't accept, and fear leads to anger and hatred in our emotional minds, try to fear things less and admit when you don't understand, are apprehensive, or unsure. 

Change to opportunity - Train your mind to look at change as more of a chance to do something differently, different, or out of your comfort zone. 

What other words, other than the obvious 'N' word, can you think of that you can interchange and influence your feelings about things in a positive way, affect your outlook on life for the positive, or lift some weight from your burdened souls?

Final Thoughts

People don't take the time to consider the weight of their words, and how they affect the world, and their own lives. Consider the things that you've heard people say "I hate" about. Did they genuinely hate those things, places, or people? 

What if they didn't hate at all? The word put a dark and emotionally negative context into their minds. At some point, we all have likely thought, "I hate_________." When you take the time to look at what fills in the blank and examine why you thought you hated that person, place, thing, or idea, where did that come from?

With each power word that rattles around inside us, there exists a chance to perform a simple tweak of our lives. Try it and see. Which of the 'N' words can you eliminate from your vocabulary and change your outlook on life, your negative perspective on the world, or your mental well-being with just the use of a word? 

I imagine there's a recently indicted ex-president who on some level wishes he'd examined the power of his words a little bit more carefully.