Full Body Questions , Feelings and Decisions.

You know what’s rather interesting?

How over time it’s become so easy to show up for others and not for ourselves.

Let’s just say you have an assignment due first thing Monday Morning, which is worth 50% of your final grade. I am pretty certain you will have it completed for Monday. Even if it may mean , pulling an all nighter just to ensure it’s complete ! (I am definitely guilty of doing a lot of those !)

If you are working out with a friend or even a personal trainer and they say, “common do 3 more reps ”,

You will most likely complete the 3 reps and then some !

And the reason for this is because we have someone pushing us , don’t want to let them down , in Go mode. And motivated to really Show up.

In the corporate world, If your employer asks you to take out the trash or come into work earlier the following morning , there is a 50/ 50 chance you really don’t want to do it , but will do it anyway because of a few reasons;

1.Feel obligated to Show up.

After-all it’s your Boss , you can’t say no right ?

2. Fear of getting fired .

Possibly perceived as rebellious or not compliant..

Don’t allow your fear of the unknown to stop you from doing what you really want to do in life. Always be respectful of course. -Ss

3. If you get fired , the fear of not being able to upkeep your financial obligations.

A whirlwind of limiting beliefs and anxieties to the roof.

These are only 3 but definitely many more suitable reasons and circumstances.

But when it comes to ourselves , sometimes we fall short. When it comes to ourselves we just don’t show up. We literally pull a no show.

After making the decision on leaving corporate America , to pursue my dreams and aspirations . It’s through this, I realized how many no shows I did to myself.

Lets take it to a social setting , shall we?

You are sitting at the restaurant waiting patiently for a great evening , the waiter comes by a few times asking you if someone will be joining you ... I mean you already said , 20 minutes ago someone was coming .. However , At this point , considering it a No show would be the best bet.

I know I am not the only person this has happened to , but making plans with someone and they call you 5 minutes to the scheduled time , saying

“Hey I am running 10 minutes late , while they were already late ?

Why? because you just know that this person or person(s) are always late. I mean every single outting this person is late or pulls a no show. The excuses are just expected at this point. To be honest, the reason could be anything but can’t deny the feelings of it bringing you down. Yes. It gets irritating and almost feels as though they lack respect for YOU and your time . On the contrary , their moral compass is severely broken.

But on the flip side ! They just gave you your afternoon or evening back and you are now free to meet better, more quality people.

Looking on it in deeper level , what’s the difference with someone else pulling a no show to you , and you not showing up for yourself ?

Really sitting down , and asking myself that question was a GAME CHANGER in itself.

And that’s just my point , why has it become so easy to show up for others and not necessarily ourselves. Why is showing up for ourselves never a high priority?

We have gameplans, we have to do lists, and we know what we want – but our excitement alone just won’t get us there. We have to really show up for ourselves daily in all areas of our lives.

Often times we put ourselves last for people who would never put us first. We are everything for everyone and nothing for ourselves.

Indecisiveness and lack of ability to make firm decisions, and boundaries can be doing more harm than good. A lot of us tip toe around our ideas, our desires, and our plans and haven’t fully made a decision to go all in on them.

What if we stopped going back and forth on our ideas, on our plans, and our goals, and just decided to be all in? Show up AND show out?

What if we really did the things we said we would do ?

Showing up for ourselves unapologetically is a lifelong process. Think of it as something that needs to breathe, that requires forgiveness and patience. Like any relationship, the one you have with yourself will consist of ups and downs, small betrayals, big miracles, and rewarding joy.

It is a disservice to yourself. When YOU can’t trust yourself or the things you say. Your word should always be BOND. Always. All ways.

So if you say , you will work out at 9:00 AM and someone calls you at

8:45 AM

Hey !, want to go the the store real quick for 9:00 AM?

In the back or forefront of your mind , You know , with the current state of the world no store run is quick with these ridiculous long lines and procedures.

Now , there is many ways you can answer that question , but for the sake of showing up for ourselves . My response would be after I work out . If the person , comes with rebuttals, or why can’t I work out after . It’s just not worth the energy to go back and forth.

Choosing to make the conscious change. Simply recognizing that you want to love and show up for yourself more will automatically put you in a better place to begin giving and receiving self-love. The bravest and sometimes the scariest thing you can do is show up for yourself .

And that’s EXACTLY how I learned to completely ignore the redundant, contradicting, and honestly, discouraging information that is floating around the internet and the mouths of many. Most people expect you to be last in your OWN life. To me , showing up is also about holding oneself accountable.

CHEERS to showing up and showing out for ourselves, unapologetically.

-Ss