Being alone is so exhausting - here's how unattached people recharge

Being alone is exhausting. If you have ever been single, then you know what I mean when I say that being alone is exhausting. It's not that we don't want to be alone or that we don't like being alone - it's just that being alone takes a lot more energy than it would if there was someone else around. But don't despair! There are things you can do to recharge. In fact, there are many things you can do to make yourself happier and healthier while feeling unattached:

Don't take it personally.

It's a common refrain among those who are single and dating: "He/she should know by now that I'm interested." Maybe they're playing hard to get, or maybe they're just not into you. Either way, it's time to stop obsessing over whether or not they like you back.

You're going to have lots of opportunities where someone won't call you back or respond to your texts - so don't let it get under your skin. It doesn't mean anything about you; it just means they have their own lives going on right now and aren't thinking about yours as much as you'd like them too!

Do your own thing - and be OK with not having someone to share it with.

While it's important to be open to the possibility of finding someone, it's also important to be OK with not having a partner. Sometimes we get so used to being alone that we forget how nice it is not having anyone around all the time. When I've been dating someone for too long, I start taking my freedom for granted and wish he was around more. But then when we spend time together, I'm tired of him being there and want some space again! It's a cycle that never ends - and you can't win unless you accept that constantly shifting balance between wishing you had a boyfriend/girlfriend and liking being single in its own right.

Celebrate your joys and mourn your losses.

If you're like me, you probably get a lot of advice for being alone - from friends, family and even total strangers in the checkout line at the grocery store. (Hi, I'm not single! I just have no one to go on vacation with!)

Here's some free advice from someone who has been in a very long-term relationship: Celebrate your joys and mourn your losses.

I know it sounds like a cliché but if there were ever an occasion to take this approach to life it is when you are unattached by choice. It's so easy to lose track of what's going right in your life because we're so focused on what's missing or wrong in our lives.

Be honest about what you need.

When we're in a relationship, we're able to rely on the other person to help us recharge. But when you're alone, it's up to you to figure out what works best for your needs.

If you're looking for some guidance on this front, here are some things that worked for me:

• Meditation - I'm not a big meditator but I could definitely see how it could help people who work a lot or have trouble sleeping at night. The goal is to sit still and focus on your breath without any other thoughts coming into your head during that time period (usually 10 minutes). It takes practice but once you get good at it, it really helps quiet your mind and give yourself some space away from technology or other distractions around the house.
• Exercise - This one seems obvious but making an effort to take care of yourself is important! A good workout routine can make all the difference in mood and energy levels throughout the day if done right! I recommend yoga because it's relaxing while also being physically challenging enough that there won't be any excuses not too (even though there will always be excuses).

Get on the same page as your friends before making plans.

One of the most common issues with being alone is that there are no distractions. You're left alone with your thoughts, which can make you feel like a prisoner in your own mind. But if you've got friends, family and/or a significant other who also enjoy spending time alone, this can be an especially rewarding experience.

The key to staying connected while also taking some time for yourself is to make sure everyone is on the same page before making plans. If someone says "I'm going out tonight" and there's no mention of whether they'd like company or not - and they assume you won't ask because they know how much you love being alone - then something isn't working as intended.

You can avoid this problem by always asking: "Do you want me to come along?" Or "Is it OK if I go home early today?" Or some variation on those lines that fits with what feels comfortable for both parties involved

Think about what will make you happiest in the long run.

• Don't make decisions based on short-term emotions. Instead, think about what will make you happiest in the long run. You may feel very lonely right now, and that's okay - but don't let that color your perspective when it comes to making big life choices.
• Don't be afraid to change your mind. Being alone means that you don't have anyone else's opinions or needs to consider before making a decision about how you want to spend your time or money. This can be great for making decisions with confidence and clarity! But if things change over time (and they will), make sure you're not afraid of revisiting those decisions down the line if necessary - otherwise, sometimes we end up regretting our past choices instead of learning from them and moving forward with a healthier outlook on life!
• And finally: Don't be afraid of being honest about what YOU need! If something doesn't jive with who YOU are as an individual human being (e.g., not having enough friends), then maybe that thing isn't right for YOU at all times no matter how many people around them seem like they would enjoy doing it too?

Find comforts in other areas of your life.

• Find a hobby. This can be something as simple as learning how to cook or taking up embroidery. It could be something like going to the gym, which might sound lame but it's incredible for your health and mood. An activity that you love doing is so much more likely to keep you company than any person ever will be. You can do it alone, but there are tons of people out there who will help teach you or join in with you!
• Find a new friend! If all your friends have partners and kids, then go ahead and make some new ones - online dating has changed the game when it comes to meeting like-minded people who don't have children (and are into sex). You'll probably find that these people are way more fun than those couples with kids anyway!

You are not alone, even when you feel like you are alone

The truth is, it's hard to tell what other people are feeling. You might not know the person well enough to understand their pain and struggles, so it can be easy to assume they're happy when they seem like they're doing fine. On the flip side of that coin, you may also assume someone feels great when they appear sad or frustrated - and let me tell you: I've done this many times in my life!

But here's the thing: no matter how isolated you feel at any given time, there are always others who are going through similar feelings. You truly are not alone in your experience as an unattached individual; there are probably many other people experiencing what you're going through right now! And even if there aren't specific examples of those people around you right now, just keep reminding yourself that they exist somewhere out there (yes, even if they aren't your friends) because we all need each other at some point or another during our lives.

Conclusion

Don't let the idea of being alone scare you. You can be happy, even if that happiness doesn't include someone else. There are so many amazing things in life to enjoy, and finding new ways to experience them is a great way to recharge when you feel lonely or overwhelmed by life. If you find yourself in a situation where being single is making your life harder than it needs to be, there are plenty of resources that can help!