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Babe, I'm so lonely without you…

When you feel lonely, it's helpful to remind yourself that your feelings are valid and that you are doing the best you can in this moment.

By Courtanae HeslopPublished 3 years ago 4 min read

Have you ever been so lonely that it seems like your whole world has fallen apart? You're not alone. Loneliness is one of the most common human experiences, because we all need a sense of connection and belonging. But when you feel lonely, it can be hard to believe that anyone else understands what you're going through or cares about it as much as they say they do.

This is how you deal with loneliness.

  • Don't feel guilty about being lonely. It's okay to want company and it's not selfish to need support from others, especially if you're going through a hard time.
  • Don't be afraid to ask for help. If you're struggling with something, reach out to someone who can help you; this applies both when dealing with personal problems as well as professional ones (e.g., "I'm having trouble getting my project done on time")!

You just have to keep going.

Please don't give up. You can do this. The world is an amazing place and there are so many people who need your help. Keep going, keep reaching for your goals and dreams, they're all within your grasp if you just reach out and grab them! Don't give up on yourself! Don't give up on your friends or family either - they'll be there for you when things get dark, but only if you let them in too!

Loneliness can be a very difficult place to come back from, even when you're surrounded by people.

Loneliness is not being alone. When we feel lonely, it's usually because we feel disconnected from the world around us and from our own selves. It can happen when you are surrounded by people who care about you and love you - your partner, your family, your friends - but still don't have that sense of being fully connected with them. Loneliness can also come when your loved ones aren't physically present in your life; maybe they live far away or they don't have enough time to spend with you anymore because they work too much or travel too often. Or maybe they just aren't available to talk whenever you need them most due to other obligations like schoolwork or extracurricular activities (or both!).

No matter what causes loneliness in your personal life right now, know that there are ways for everyone out here on this planet - including yourself! - 

When you feel lonely, it's helpful to remind yourself that your feelings are valid and that you are doing the best you can in this moment.

When you feel lonely, it's helpful to remind yourself that your feelings are valid and that you are doing the best you can in this moment. You don't have to feel guilty about feeling lonely, because it is a normal human emotion. When you know what triggers your loneliness, think of some strategies that can help minimize it in the future. For example, if spending time with others helps offset feelings of loneliness, make plans with friends more often or join an activity group geared toward connecting people with similar interests (like photography or hiking).

If comparing yourself to others makes you feel like a failure because they seem happier than you are right now, remind yourself that each person has their own journey through life - you cannot compare yours with theirs! As my mom used to say when I was growing up: "Comparison is the thief of joy."

You don't need anyone else - so long as you are enough for yourself.

People get lonely, but it doesn't mean that they need a partner to be happy. Being alone is not the same thing as being lonely. We all have our own definitions of happiness and success, and some people find that having a significant other is important to them in achieving those goals. Other people don't feel this way; they're perfectly content spending their lives single and unattached. If you're one of those people who aren't interested in being romantically involved at this moment in your life (or ever), then there's no reason to feel bad about it! You know what makes YOU happy - stop worrying about what other people think and start focusing on YOU!

You need to love yourself first.

I know, I know. You're thinking: "But I already love myself!" And that might be true, but do you really? Do you actually have the ability to say no when someone asks for something from you? Or to say yes when the answer is truly yes? In other words, do we really have self-love and respect in our lives?

Of course not! We are all conditioned by society (and ourselves) into doing what others want us to do, instead of following our own hearts and minds. This is why many people find themselves unhappy in relationships or careers - because they never learned how to be their own best friend. They never learned how important it was for them as individuals that things go their way sometimes; rather than always being subservient or giving up their needs and desires for the sake of others around them.

Conclusion

I think we can all agree that feeling lonely is never a good thing. And yet, it is a part of life for many people. Loneliness is an emotion that affects us all at some point in our lives, whether it's because of events outside our control (like losing someone close to us) or because it's something we experience ourselves as a result of making choices like moving away from friends or family members who might have helped offset feelings of isolation by providing support when needed).

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About the Creator

Courtanae Heslop

Courtanae Heslop is a multi-genre writer and business owner.

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