Young Love 101

Life hurts, but with the right partner, you can overcome anything.

Being young is fun and challenging at the same time. This is the stage where you find love, where you experience heartbreak. This is the stage where you have to determine where you are going with your life and to make sure that the people you keep in your life will help you get there instead of being detrimental to your growth.

While trying to figure out life, you still have to focus on your education. It’s truly hard being young.

Finding the right partner is the part that gets a bit tricky. How do you know if someone has the same mindset and intentions as you? How do you know if someone really loves you as you love them? Is it possible to find answers to these questions while avoiding heartbreak at the same time? Let’s discuss these questions and see if we can at least find some light on this topic.

How do you know if someone has the same mindset and intentions as you? The answer to that is, you never really know. Until you give yourself time to get to know a person, you will never truly know the truth about their intentions towards you, regardless of what they tell you. Time is the revealer of secrets. It takes patience to get to know a person and it takes strength to do so without catching feelings.

I believe most unnecessary heartbreaks we go through could have been avoided if we learnt not to catch feelings for a person so quickly. The heart is truly something else and it is quite hard to control how it reacts to certain individuals. So, please try to the best of your ability, to avoid catching feelings for a person until you know that both of you want the same things from each other.

How do you know if someone loves you as much as you love them? The best way to distinguish if a person really loves you or not is really in the small things they do. Do they react positively to your love? Do they put in the same effort as you? Do they make time for you without excuses? What number are you on their priority list? Simply saying “I love you” is not enough these days. The action behind those words is what really matters. If there are no actions, then “I love you” means nothing.

The best thing that can help you is to learn to put people in categories. Put people of similar traits in the same categories, if you have met a time waster before, open up a category to put them under. As you go ahead with your life, you will most likely meet people that show similar traits to the time waster you once met in your life. You can then categorise them and will be able to deal with them accordingly. Do this for each person you meet in your life. Pretty soon you will be able to know who to entertain, and who to let go of.

Mental health is very important. If you don’t take care of your mind, no one else will. Some people actually, want you to be mentally weak in order for them to make a fool out of you. Don’t let that happen. While you are at it, focus on the important things happening in your life, focus on your school work, secure that bag. Focus on building your friendships with the most important people in your life. Before you do all of that though, focus on your mind and on being healthy and happy with yourself. No one with a broken or confused heart and state of mind has ever been productive. Don’t give a human being power over your mind and heart.

Protect your mental peace. Categorise, categorise, categorise, and then deal with it accordingly.

You’ll thank me later.