You Will Not Be Able to Recover Without Forgiving Yourself!

I want to emphasize that a person cannot recover without forgiving himself. This principle is essential for the betterment of our lives.

What is forgiveness?

Maybe you did something that hurt another person's feelings. Maybe you knew it was wrong, but you did it. It is human to do these things and it is important to apologize when you hurt someone.

Forgiveness means giving up your anger at someone who has wronged you so that they will not pay you back. It is a desire not to hold that person hostage in your heart for what he has done. It does not mean that you trust her again or that you believe that what she did is right. It just means giving up. Don't worry about the past. To care for yourself, for your healing. Be calm and be able to continue your life.

In terms of self-forgiveness, this is crucial because if it doesn't happen you will come to believe that you are not trustworthy and loving. To get rid of these thoughts about yourself, it is essential to forgive yourself.

These stages were followed by thousands of people and along the way proved their effectiveness:

1. Identify your emotions. Be aware of why you are blaming yourself or someone else, and find out if you are worried about it.

2. Take responsibility. This means being aware that you can always choose - to react with affection or fear. What are you afraid of? Be aware that you may be afraid of being blamed for what another person is blaming.

3. Be understanding with the other person and reduce tension. To do this, put yourself in that person's shoes and try to understand their intentions. Think about it, maybe she's blaming herself and you, and she's just as scared.

4. Forgive yourself first. This is the most important stage of forgiveness. To forgive yourself, allow yourself to be afraid, to be weak, to make mistakes, to have flaws, to suffer, and to be angry. Accept yourself as you are right now, knowing that this is only a temporary condition.

5. You want to apologize. At this stage, imagine that you are asking for forgiveness from a person you criticized. If you feel happy and free after this exercise, you are ready for the next stage.

6. Meet the person you want to apologize to. Tell him about your feelings and apologize for criticizing, blaming, or hating him.

7. Remember a similar situation from the past with a person who represents authority for you - father, mother, grandfather, grandmother, teacher, etc. This person must be the same as the person you just forgave.

Tips:

Give yourself time to get through each step. For one stage you may need one day, and for another one year. The most important thing is to sincerely want to go through each stage. The greater the psychological trauma and the more your ego resists, the more time you will need.

If the sixth stage is difficult for you, it means that your ego is against it. If you think, "Why should I apologize if I didn't upset him, but he upset me?" I have every reason to be angry with him "- it means that your ego speaks for you, not your heart. You must want to live in a compassionate world.

Don't worry if the person you're apologizing for doesn't react as you expect. Some things are impossible to anticipate and control. In any case, try to treat any person's reaction with understanding, whether positive or negative.

Why is it important to tell someone else that you forgave them too?

It is very possible that the person who upset you did not even have this intention. Reality can often be different from our perception of it. This person may not have even realized that he was upset with you.

You need to understand that you need this forgiveness to be free. Forgiving another person means taking an important step in forgiving yourself.

You need to be aware that it is not entirely up to you to truly forgive a person. Only she can be forgiven.