You Love Each Other ,  But Why Doesn’t Your Relationship Work

Do you love each other, but your relationship doesn't work out? At first, you thought it would be great to be together, even if you had a good chance to live a life together - love gives wings and everything seems perfect. But once together, the relationship stumbled and things just weren't great at all.

You don't know why, but obviously, your relationship just doesn't work out and instead of being a dream come true, it's more of a nightmare. Why? Because even though romantics may not believe it, love is not everything.

Love is what brings the two partners together - but it can't keep them together for long, especially when the passionate and idealistic love of the beginning subsides, turning into mature love or… dying slowly (which lasts 1 year, 2, 3, maybe 4 years…).

Love alone does not make the relationship work: there are ingredients needed for a happy married life, ingredients that can sometimes be missing, even if you love each other.

Do you think that loving yourself is all that matters? And of course, the relationship will go by itself, as long as you love each other. This is not the case: the relationship requires little involvement from the two partners.

They must lay the foundation for their relationship and never neglect it. Things can't be simple: living with another person, whom you may love, but whom you are just beginning to know, cannot be avoided. Love is not everything, and don't make the mistake of expecting everything between you to go well just because you have feelings for each other…

You love each other - but why doesn't your relationship work? Because you are missing some of the following ingredients to maintain a relationship:

A common ground: opposites may attract, but they cannot maintain a long harmonious relationship if they do not adapt to each other and do not have or do not create a common ground. Less important are the common preferences - partners can easily find some activities that they both enjoy.

Really important are the sharing of similar principles and values: how can you have a life with a person who contradicts your set of values ​​or life principles? One more thing about similarities: they are created in a relationship and in time, through life in two; but some can't create them, constantly fighting head to head.

Compatibility. You can be different: but it is essential for the relationship to work, to complement each other harmoniously, without frequently coming into conflict. Some people are made to feel together - others not at all, despite the existence of feelings. If instead of complementing each other, you too often end up contradicting each other - or being distant from each other - you are not suitable as a partner. You don't always love the right people; in fact, it is not uncommon to fall in love with people who hurt you; but what is the point of hurting yourself, staying in a relationship that doesn't work and that, instead of making you happy, makes you miserable? Remember: love is not everything…

Admiration. Do you love each other, but your relationship doesn't work out? Simple and concise: you can't have a good relationship with a person you don't admire as a human being! If you can't find good things to admire in your partner, you are in a relationship with no future. When you know that if you do not love your partner, you do not like him at all as a person, you should ask yourself if it makes sense to be with him/her. And to ask yourself if you love (maybe it's a passion, maybe it's an obsession).

Respect. Along with admiration, the appreciation of your partner, you need to respect him as a person to create a relationship with him/her. Respect his principles, achievements, qualities, and ideas, and be proud to be your partner. When you feel rather pity or contempt - even if you try to fool yourself - you can't have a long happy relationship!

Trust. Do you love each other, but your relationship doesn't work out? Maybe it's a lack of trust. Either because of your partner, who doesn't inspire that trust or because of you - when you have trouble trusting others because you have been betrayed in the past. Anyway, when you don't trust your partner when you live in constant insecurity and frustrating doubts, your relationship is, only not happy!

Involvement - and finally, the big problem: the refusal or fear of one of the partners to get emotionally involved in the relationship, to commit. Some people are more afraid than anything to get seriously involved in relationships - they may be hurt; they may have problems with intimacy, caused by a past emotional wound; maybe I still don't know if the other one is the right partner; or maybe they don't want anything stable and serious yet, not being prepared.

So, if there is a fear of serious involvement, the partner will not take the relationship to the next level, will avoid discussions about the future of the couple, will avoid too much intimacy, remaining somewhat emotionally distant. This isn't to say he doesn't love his partner - but he can't make a final commitment.

One last idea: sometimes, even though you love each other, your relationship doesn't work out because you lack the emotional maturity to understand what a real-life relationship entails: it also involves problems; compromises; small changes; friendship and not just passion; and never forget your loved one and don't treat her as if she will always be with you no matter what you do…