You are worthy of the love you desire

In order to get what you desire and deserve you have to know where you're going. We know this is true for every area of our lives and most of us have no issue asking for clarity from our boss, from our personal trainer, or even from our friends.

So why do we, especially women and feminine beings, sit in the passenger seat when it comes to love?

I see this all of the time with clients who know that they desire more from their relationships and yet they don't ask for clarity about where their relationship is headed from the people they're dating.

Is this you?

Are you in the passenger seat of your dating life?

Here are some signs:

1. You have low standards for how the people you date show up for you. You haven't set the bar for how you'd like to be treated so you accept what you're given. You accept excuses, inconsistencies, and behaviours that don't feel good.

2. You have no idea about what you want in a partner or what kind of commitment you're looking for.

3. You're waiting for somebody to change or show up differently than they have been, instead of walking away from them because they aren't meeting your relationship needs.

4. You're reactive and easily triggered in your dating life.

5. You're entertaining exes or lovers from your past in the hopes that they'll come back or choose you.

If you see yourself in this list it's a sign that you have some reconnection to do. In order to become aligned with the relationship the Universe has for you, you have to come back into connection with your own heart. When we settle for inconsistency or uncertainty it is a sign that we are disconnected from ourselves and the solution is always to come back home to self.

You can have the love that you desire. I truly deeply believe that. I believe that we are all worthy of love and belonging and that the only thing that stops us from creating the relationship we desire is our own fears of rejection and inadequacy. This fear stops us for asking where the relationship is going, asserting our needs, and setting boundaries. This works short term because it keeps people in our lives, but in the long term it hurts us because we can't weed out the people who aren't for us.

Anybody who doesn't desire the same level of commitment or connection that you do is not your person. It's as simple as that.

Believe that you are worthy of the love you desire and watch the whole Universe seek to help you create it.

You are worthy.

You are loved.

Your desires are divine.