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WOMEN NEED GAME TOO!

One of the most common mistakes women make is stating upfront that they want a committed relationship. To a man, this sounds as abrupt and off-putting as if a man were to immediately express his desire for sex. Setting expectations too early without first building interest and attraction rarely works.

By Joshua Henderson Published 10 months ago 3 min read
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Why Women Need Game

In the dating world, it’s often assumed that men are the ones who need “game” to win over women. However, women also need game, but for a different reason. While men might focus on sparking attraction or advancing toward a sexual encounter, women often aim for commitment. Game, in this context, helps women guide a man’s interest from casual to committed.

The Real Dynamics of First Dates

Before a first date, many women might be praying for the guy to be “the one” and hoping to avoid another round of dating disappointment. On the other hand, many men approach first dates thinking about physical attraction and potential sexual encounters. This doesn’t mean that relationships don’t form — they do, but not by accident. Men have game to steer interactions toward intimacy, and women need game to steer those same interactions toward commitment.

How Game Works for Women

While men are the gatekeepers of commitment, women are the gatekeepers of sex. On a first date, a woman may not be actively thinking about sex, yet she might find herself in a sexual situation because the man effectively used his game to lead her in that direction. This shows that game is about influencing and guiding interactions, regardless of gender. Women can use game in the same way to steer a man toward emotional investment and commitment.

Mistakes Women Make in the Game of Commitment

One of the most common mistakes women make is stating upfront that they want a committed relationship. To a man, this sounds as abrupt and off-putting as if a man were to immediately express his desire for sex. Setting expectations too early without first building interest and attraction rarely works.

Women often rely on guilt or shame tactics, thinking that if they pressure a man enough, he’ll eventually agree to a commitment. However, this approach usually works only on men with limited options. High-value men, the ones many women seek, are less likely to commit if they feel pushed.

Building Attraction and Earning Commitment

Just as men need to earn sexual access through their actions and attractiveness, women need to earn commitment. Attracting a man to the point where he willingly commits requires more than just desire, it requires skill. This skill, or game, involves being emotionally intelligent, creating excitement in the relationship, and subtly steering it toward a deeper connection.

A woman’s game is about making the man believe that committing to her was his idea. When done well, it’s seamless. The man thinks he’s in control, but in reality, the woman has skillfully guided him to a place where he feels ready to commit.

Why Today’s Market Demands More Game from Women

In the modern dating world, where traditional pressures to marry have diminished and casual dating has become the norm, women must adapt. The days of relying on societal pressure for commitment are gone, meaning women need more active strategies to secure meaningful relationships.

Women who have strong game understand that attracting and keeping a high-value man requires effort, just as men put in effort to attract women. You can’t just expect commitment because you want it — just like men can’t expect sex without effort.

Mastering the Game

Women, like men, need game to navigate today’s dating landscape. While men work to make themselves sexually attractive, women must learn how to build emotional connections that lead to commitment. The key is not to force or demand but to subtly guide interactions toward what you want. By understanding and mastering this game, women can significantly increase their chances of turning casual dates into meaningful, long-term relationships.

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Joshua Henderson

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