Why You Flout Your First Date And The Key Questions You Shouldn’t Be Asking.

Having a first date can sometimes be very dicey; you may not want to come out as a nerd who doesn’t know what exactly to talk about. You may also not want to look like the guy who doesn’t know exactly what to say to a lady because you may not know what may interest your lady.

You may take a deep guess which is almost synonymous to shooting in the dark as to whether she likes talking about fashion, crocheting, whether she’s a cook enthusiast, a prolific writer, a social media maven or she just vegetate all day long wondering in youthful fantasies?

In times like this, you should have equipped yourself with some basic questions to test the waters for you to know the areas you can focus on. It’s not bad to ask, but you must ask intelligently because this is the initial engagement which both of you is using to access yourselves.

First impressions are very important, and she equally understands that, being your first time of meeting, you are not a magician to naturally know all her likes and dislikes.

It is a time to stay very attentive and very mindful with her questions and not be carried away in the euphoria of the day because you must not keep her repeating herself.

You must be very poised and smart to pick a cue from her answers and not to keep asking questions you’ve asked already in another form.

You must be smart enough to make a lot of deductions and get her to confirm your assumptions. Listening is one thing you should do more attentively than even the questions you ask.

When she asks a question think carefully before you answer. This does not mean you need to pause forever thinking, a brief pause and the ability to think on your feet is very essential at this point.

Ladies are very particular and they can remember 80% of what you said in their first date while men remember only 20%. Ensure you speak the truth and that will enable you not to think forever the next time you are asked the same question in another form.

Don’t try to impress her with expensive gift on your very first date, it come off as a form of show off or trying to buy her interest. Women like men who listen and your attention at this time may be the most important thing she may require.

Remember it’s a knowing me knowing you session so, there is going to be a time when she will be asking her questions, at this time keep quiet and listen.

There are certain indicators and cardinal points she may want to clarify after she has accepted your overall outlook and stature. When these questions are coming, be very careful the way you answer them.

Some of the key things she may want to know are; (please remember these are not the totality of all, these are just an abridge version);

i. Your last relationship

ii. Your parents

iii. Sibling

iv. Single or married before

v. Employment status

vi. School , Others etc.

After the major pertinent areas have been covered, the questions below are to assist you to keep the conversation going. You may not necessarily need to ask all these question, just go through them and select those that relate to the fundamentals of your conversations.

Some of the questions are as follows;

· What traits do you like most in people and the country you last visited;

· A favourite quote and whether you forgive or forget;

· The song which can always get you onto the dance floor and the last time you cried;

· Your bravest moment and if you’ve ever been in love, and how you knew;

· Your relationship with the truth and the name of a treasured book;

· Whether you smoke or have ever flown a kite;

· Your sexual appetite and how you pronounce the word ‘scone;’

· How you switch off and whether your parents are still alive;

· If you’re fashionable and ever experimented with illegal drugs;

· Your personal goals and if you own a dog;

· If your glass is typically half full and if you prefer a bath or a shower;

· The nicest compliment you’ve ever been paid and if you like cooking;

· Whether you’d go to bed on an argument and how you feel about street buskers;

· Your go-to fruit and your attitude to money;

· If you like children and your worst personal habit;

· Roses or peonies and the last time you laughed out loud;

· Your shirt size and how you feel about alternative lifestyles;

· If you can ride a bike and have any superstitions;

· What board games you play and if you like open fires;

· What you’d do if granted one wish and whether you had a happy childhood;

· If you’re a colour or monochrome person, cornflakes or muesli person and whether you like Persian rugs;

· If you’re an early bird or a night owl, monarchy or republic;

· Your timekeeping habits and if you’ve ever carved a pumpkin;

· If you can speak Italian or ever owned a pair of Crocs;

· The last time you spoke to your best friend and whether I’d feel safe with you.

Try not to look jittery or fumble, your confidence rate should be at all time high but not also being egoistic or dogmatic, sticking to a particular stand over an issue and not yielding. Women like and enjoy men who are flexible.

Adhering to these points and practicing them could give you a fair chance to win on your first date. Remember nothing is shrouded in concrete, if you try a specific line and it’s not working, try another.

Remember, that meeting is supposed to be fun and entertaining, do your best to make it the best most exciting day for both of you and if she really enjoys it, she may want to see you again. Good Luck.