Why It’s Better to Be By Yourself These Days

We've had certain ideas hammered into our heads for so long, they almost sound like universal truths:

"Humans are social creatures - you're not supposed to be alone."

"You need people around to grow."

"You'll regret not building a network when you're older."

But honestly?

To me, those are just myths.

In my opinion, being alone is one of the most underrated forms of peace today.

We're taught to believe that friendships, relationships, marriage, and big family gatherings are what give life meaning.

That the more connected you are, the more fulfilled you'll be.

But here's what I've come to learn with time: If you don't like someone or genuinely enjoy spending time with them, why are they still in your life?

Seriously.

You don't have to be their friend.

You don't have to marry them.

And if it's family and you absolutely have to see them, you can still choose to limit how much of your energy they get.

Because the truth is, staying connected to people you don't vibe with is far more exhausting than simply being by yourself.

The emotional overhead?

So not worth it.

I Chose Alone - and I Don't Regret It

I'm an introvert.

I spend a lot of time alone - by choice.

I work from home, I have no social life, and no friends.

The only person I regularly spend time with is my partner (also an introvert). So yeah, it's just me and him, most of the time.

People might look at that and think, "She must be bored," or "She's missing out on life."

And maybe I am, depending on how you define "life."

But for me, being alone is so, so, so much better than being out there in the noise.

All this solitude has given me the space to become self-aware.

To work on myself.

To strengthen my relationship.

To slowly get to know who I really am and what truly matters to me.

I highly doubt that kind of clarity would've been possible if I were constantly surrounded by people, events, and the pressure to keep up.

Being around people overwhelms me.

The performance, the small talk, the fakeness - it's a lot.

I'm not saying I'm better than anyone, but I am saying I need peace more than I need noise.

Keeping the Wrong People Is Draining

Staying in relationships - friendships, romantic partners, even family - that don't feel good has a cost.

You start overthinking your every word.

You feel the need to shrink yourself to fit in.

You say "yes" when you really want to say "no."

All because you don't want to deal with conflict or be the odd one out.

But that emotional labor?

That quiet draining of your energy?

It builds up.

And what are you left with? Anxiety. Resentment. Burnout.

Sometimes being by yourself isn't loneliness. It's freedom.

The World Is Loud. Stay True Anyway

From the moment you're old enough to make your own decisions, you're flooded with expectations:

"You should be married by now."

"When are you having kids?"

"You should own a house."

"This is what a successful life looks like."

But what if that's not your dream?

What if you're just going along with it because that's what everyone else is doing?

Next thing you know, you're stuck in a life that isn't really yours. Married, with kids, in a career you never really cared for.

And deep down, you know - you never wanted any of it.

That kind of regret hits harder than loneliness ever could.

The Real Benefits of Being Alone

Here's what being alone gives you:

1. You Save Your Energy for What Truly Matters

When you're always caught up in draining people or empty relationships, your energy leaks. And suddenly:

✖ That side project you said you'd start? Still untouched.

✖ That hobby you wanted to explore? Doesn't even cross your mind anymore.

✖ That self-care routine? What routine?

✖ Your "me time"? Completely gone.

Being alone helps you reclaim your time and energy - and redirect it toward the things that light you up.

2. You Become Self-Aware

You start hearing your own thoughts again.

You begin to understand what you value, what you want, and what no longer serves you. That's powerful.

3. You Make Better Decisions

With no outside noise clouding your judgment, you're able to make decisions that actually align with your values - not what society says you should be doing.

4. You Find Peace

Not the kind that comes from distractions or escapes - but real, lasting peace that comes from within.

When you're alone, there's no noise to filter, no pressure to perform.

You get to slow down, hear yourself clearly, and move at your own pace.

This kind of peace doesn't rely on anyone else.

It can't be faked or borrowed

And once you've felt it, you stop tolerating chaos just to feel connected.

Wrapping up…

If there's one thing I've learned from spending so much time alone, it's this: Peace is underrated - and people can be loud in all the wrong ways.

I've built more self-awareness in solitude than I ever did in rooms full of noise.

And the more time I spend with myself, the more I realize I don't need to be around anyone to feel whole.

You don't owe your energy to anyone who drains it.

You don't need to explain why you're choosing quiet over chaos.

Being alone has never felt like loneliness to me - It feels like freedom.