Why Isn’t It Good to Do Everything Your Relationship Partner Asks You to Do?

When you do everything your partner asks you to do, you always want to please him and you want to play the role of the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend… sometimes you forget about yourself, your feelings, and your needs, emphasizing those of the other. Focus on your partner while ignoring yourself!

When you notice that lately, you have started to do everything your partner asks of you, when in your relationship he/she is the one who asks, you the one who does, it is time to ask yourself where this imbalance occurred. And why are you so easy to manipulate, why do you always please the other person.

Are you afraid that this is the only way you will like and love? Some people take advantage of those who are influential and do not have much confidence in them, so they make them accept more and more, they make them change so that they fit their standards. As the old saying goes, if you point a finger at the person, he'll take your whole hand!

When you do everything your partner tells you:

From the look of it initially, your partner started to give you free advice on how to look better dressed, cut, arranged? And from the advice to the more and more frequent requests: "you don't look like this, dress like something else", "cut your hair like this", "wear the color X", "we go to the city - be careful to look your best "… Do you think that these suggestions are rather orderly and yet you like them so that your partner will be satisfied and appreciate you?

Behavior… Do you notice that he started telling you how to behave, what to say, and what not to say? Is it pointing out that you didn't behave properly? Does it say, "Don't make fun of me in the face?"

In preferences and activities… You heard the following words from your partner: "you shouldn't like X, it's horrible - you should prefer Y", "don't do X anymore, do Y"… In addition, he/she is the one who always decides what you do together, your proposals being rejected? And you do what he wants because you want him to be happy and you want to keep the peace? "

Opinions and values… Even when you notice that your partner is trying to force you to think like him/her - because he/she is always right, and you are never right, when you notice that he/she does not consider your opinions and impose his own, when you notice that only what he appreciates matters - you have to ask yourself what kind of relationship you have.

He/she is the boss who knows everything and asks for everything, and you the subject who learns from the "master", who is not allowed to contradict and who pleases them?

Forgetting you! And so, slowly, when you do everything your partner tells you, you let him/her change you from the smallest and insignificant things to the biggest ones, you let him/her manipulate you and you don't protest for fear of not you have problems - you get to forget about yourself, who you are, what you want and what you need!

Sure, it's one thing to want your partner to like and appreciate you and make him / her happy - but a whole other thing is to constantly fulfill all his / her demands, especially those that contradict what you want or what you think so!

When you notice that you tend to do everything your partner wants you to do, to conform to his/her wishes, so that he/she is satisfied, ask yourself why you think this is better than just being yourself!

When you are used to ignoring and ignoring what you think or what you want, always focusing on the other, it is good to stop and ask yourself: why? Why always put the other one in the center and forget about yourself? Wouldn't your partner love you anymore if you didn't constantly please him? Do you feel the need to be a different person, a person who suits them?

You are a very influential person - you probably tend to conform, agree, and do what others want in other types of relationships - family, friends, professionals… But always let yourself be influenced and manipulated by those around you he steals from you who you are. Learn and take the courage to be yourself, to say and do what you want and not just what others want!

Try to appreciate yourself for who you are and not how others see you - this is your main problem, that you need the appreciation of others to like you! But you must learn to appreciate yourself not in terms of the opinions of those around you, but primarily for who you are, for your qualities.

Whoever likes you must like you as you are. Learn to say "no", to impose yourself when the situation demands it, and to say "no" in an elegant, careless, and yet decisive way. If your partner loves you, if his love is real, he should love you for who you are, and even though you can't always be the way he/she wants, you can't be perfect - he/she isn't either!