Why Do We Demand That Beautiful Women Only Date Beautiful Men?

Why Do We Demand That Beautiful Women Only Date Beautiful Men?

Beyoncé is one of the world’s most beautiful women. No doubt about that. Her husband Jayz, according to many, is not as gifted in that aspect. They are many memes and jokes that center around their disparity in beauty, prompting the mogul to immortalize his response in his music. “Ain’t no such thing as an ugly billionaire. I’m cute!”

Beyoncé also seemed to address the sentiments about her husband’s looks in her song Formation.

"I love my baby heir with baby hair and afro. I love my negro nose with Jackson 5 nostrils."

Many mean and ill-meaning netizens have on many occasions bullied her child Blue Ivy declaring her ugly as she seemed to resemble her father. First, what grown-up would go around saying hurtful things about an innocent child? They are probably shutting their mouths right now as the older she grows, the more she resembles her mother. Beyoncé even immortalized this again in her art. She can be heard supposedly telling her daughter in the narration on her Lemonade album.

“You look everything like your mother.”

According to Wikipedia, a person’s physical characteristics can signal cues to fertility and health.

When a female member of any species is looking for a male to sire a child with, she is biologically inclined to choose a strong and good-looking male. The good looks are an implication of good health and strong genes that could be useful in helping her offspring to survive.

Could this be the reason millions of years in our evolution we still insist on women dating good-looking men? Are we subconsciously looting for the survival of our species?

We are socialized to want a beautiful woman to end up with a beautiful man. We idolize beautiful couples. We love to see them in pictures, on posters, and in films. We want to hear about them singing about in songs.

Even in Beauty and the Beast, we cannot allow a fictional beautiful woman to end up with a fictional ugly man. The ugly man had to be under a curse that brought this ugliness upon him. And eventually, when the curse is lifted and he becomes beautiful again, he can be allowed to spend a life with the beautiful woman.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder they say. But even so, there is little debate about who is universally beautiful and who is not. Even though the marks of beauty are also dependent on geographical locations, some cultures praising certain features over others, you could pick out a beautiful person from just about anywhere in the world.

When an ugly man manages to get a beautiful wife or partner, he is regarded as lucky and as a conquerer. He even gains respect among his peers. In superstitious societies, they could even whisper amongst themselves that he used a love potion or black magic.

Even though some might mention that the woman should have picked a better-looking guy, it is assumed that the man’s wealth, status, power, or influence might have influenced the beautiful woman’s decision.

“What does she see in him?” they ask.

It is good to note that the beast in Beauty and the Beast lived in a castle with a vast estate and had servants to cater to his every whim. He wasn’t just the average ugly guy around the corner.

Go to Quora and you will find many users asking why beautiful women date ugly men. And several other users attempting to answer using their real-life examples. As if ugly men don’t deserve love or attention!

Comedian Steve Harvey even shares his sentiments on the matter. “Give ugly men a chance,” he says. He also posits that ugly men get things done, that he has never been pretty himself, and also that he does not have any good looking males as friends.

Part of his sentiments may be true as not-so-good-looking men in my experience try to compensate for their lack of attractiveness with good wit, cleverness, hard work, and success which are qualities that may be attractive to many women.

Mention Beyoncé’s choice of Jayz as a husband, and someone might point out that he is super successful and a dollar billionaire. Were he just a nobody they could add, chances are that she probably would have had zero interest in him?

Women, regardless of sexual orientation, tend to be less interested in a partner’s physical attractiveness than men, according to Wikipedia. As men are visual beings, beauty ranks highly in their choice of partner. But even this measure of beauty varies from individual to individual. One man’s beautiful woman might be considered ugly by another man. Few men will admit that their woman is ugly.

Also, women have developed techniques to twist their looks and to accentuate their beauty. So technically, there is no such thing as an ugly woman.

A beautiful woman dating an ugly man will admit it to your face. “He is not good looking but…” She might tell you. It’s clear that good looks in a man are not as important for women when looking for partners. According to Psychologytoday.Com beauty ranks low in what women look for in men.

Everyone is entitled to their personal preferences, opinions, and choices. And if you have an opinion on somebody else’s choice of spouse or partner, you are simply poking your nose in matters that do not concern you and you should instead focus that attention on your own life and choices.

Let everyone date whoever they want. Whether they are easy on the eye or not. As long as they make them feel loved and they meet their needs. And as long as they know why they are with them, that’s all that should matter.

Beautiful women (or anyone for that matter) owe no one an explanation as to their choices of romantic partners.

Source:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness

https://www.mydomaine.com/what-women-want-in-a-man-4176695

https://steveharvey.com/give-ugly-men-a-chance/&ved=2ahUKEwiH5u3JwqPuAhXDaRUIHWFGDQ8QFjACegQICxAB&usg=AOvVaw0c3XWfQ9Tw0ect0tuRn5MY