When you don’t naturally abide by the same culture rules as the masses.

Prepare yourself...are you ready to read what could be just another milennial tasting complaint post about the social psychological caveats of society today? Or will you find yourself silently agreeing with these written thoughts that seem surprisingly refreshing and down to earth? Well, I hope you do get something meaningful out of reading this, dear reader….

I think we can all agree on at least one thing: Modern society is built on this trend of instantaneous satisfaction. Where your primal gut responses are tested by the day on how fast you can make your next impulse buy, impulse date, impulse anything-that-takes-part-of-the-edge off of the building stress of just existing in today's modern world. Were you able to take a breath when reading that last sentence? 😅

It seems that these days people make snap judgements and you're either one of two extremes; Thoughtful and slower moving and pushed to the side, or, go! Go! Go! rush to survive and get to the next best thing first to show off on social media and live for the following. Also, because of how fast things move, it's easy to forget responding to something especially if it requires more thought. And, there’s just a whole lot of passive aggressive behavior that arises when communication gets lost and no one is brave enough to put themselves out there in taking the responsibility of explaining themselves because that takes too long to have to come up with the right response, so it’s easier to just ghost to provide an effect of silent resentment. And hence, more distrust builds. More walls form. Sigh.

It sucks when you find yourself being slower yet thoughtful, deeper, and having that thirst for satisfying and pure connection when it seems that it’s more common you find yourself amongst others who act the opposite. I think many of those that often classify themselves under lonely and depressed with an expanding creative mind will tend to find themselves identifying with the inner void of that - it’s quite frustratingly the opposite of how society at large seems to be operating (or maybe just in the United States? I wonder….). The homebodies who find themselves getting lost in other worlds from books, tv shows, or video games that transport them back to a time of beauty, lore, mystery, and language appreciation to escape the boringly superficial, monotonous and un-thought provoking conundrum of today's world. Being made fun of or called weird for having a love of those things or having a love for complex expression and style. Or even just being more sensitive than others who’s norm is loud, disrespectful, and repetitive boundary crossing. Maybe that's what this really is. Connecting with those other people that DO exist out there but that we struggle to connect with because we really just formed that little bubble for ourselves since it’s maybe even gotten a lot harder to find these people and most people seem to just want to suck the energy from us anyway so why bother? (Lol, I hope you enjoy my thing for run on sentences that attempt for deeper meaning. )A lot of the romanticism of dating or even just life in general with enjoying little things because someone thought you might like it, not because they have a hidden agenda - is often lost today. There's more fear of commitment from seeing how so many relationships haven't made it through the test of time, or loyalty was disregarded and exchanged when communication was lost. Loss of trust. Why stay when there’s a possibility of better elsewhere? (Minus those who are in abusive relationships that really should for their safety find someone better).

And, there’s the ever looming in the background loss of trust in society that can be traced to the beginning of the pandemic (hello, rise in cost of living but then refusal to raise wages...)with political associations and seemingly manipulative media. People trying to use social media for instant fame or trying to open peoples eyes to an unfair reality they’re facing so that they can gain social fame. I get that everyone should have a voice. Everyone is allowed to their own opinion. There is a lot of misuse of power in large organizations or power structures. There is a lot of religious, sexual, political affiliation persecution. But, what is truly going to make a difference? Yes, there needs to be change. Lot's of change. Change from having more than just a couple of people become the driving force for society at large to change. One of the best things that I‘be thought of within my power is to be in a position of acceptance for what people choose for themselves. There's already an overload of judgement and bullying for just about anything. So, I choose not to promote that. There's so much negativity abounding. So I'll choose to find positivity amidst the sea of chaos.

How then, can we collectively shift these paradigms for the better of the whole? How can we connect better with ourselves and with each other? I think when we can begin to find truthful answers to these, we can start getting somewhere better. Another thing is us homebodies stepping outside of our comfort zone so that we can connect with each other 😁 Then, the realization is that we’re not alone and that our personalities and quirks are what make us such unique beings. It’s what makes us rare and incredibly valued. We are the things that make romanticism stay alive. We make the beauty mean something for appreciating it. And, others do see it even though most don’t voice it. Which brings me to another annoying part of today’s societal habits. Lurkers who don’t share their voice for fear of being judged or otherwise rejected because of so much prior rejection or observed indirect rejection. Your voice does matter. Your little compliments mean the world to others. Your smile, your laughter and sense of humor. Your thoughts. There’s a lot of boisterous people out there that push their way into the spotlight but you deserve your space to be heard too. From one sensitive, compassionate heart to another: you matter. End of discussion 😉