What kind of emotion is jealousy in a relationship? How to conduct psychological analysis and guidance?

One of the reasons why intimacy is attractive is "rich emotional experience and expression". Shy, excited, nervous, happy, sad...and jealous! Yes, there is jealousy wherever there are people, and jealousy in intimate relationships can be seen everywhere. Jealousy, it's not a comfortable feeling, but it's hard to shake off. We tend to use "jealousy" to refer to jealousy in intimate relationships cutely. When shopping together, the eyes of the lover stay on the stranger of the high-valued stranger for a few more seconds, or we find that the lover has a good friend of the opposite sex. At this time, we feel sour in our hearts. Jealousy is born, maybe you can endure it, or you have a big quarrel with your lover, and he (she) always calls your jealousy as vexatious.

Jealousy is actually the most direct expression of one's own possessiveness. Because of possessiveness, you cannot accept that he or she has "any" relationships with other people of the opposite sex. The "any" here is not really too much, just the level of jealousy. Just because jealousy is like this, it's not just lovers who are jealous. Some even the opposite sex you admire has a better relationship with other people than you, which will lead to jealousy. The degree varies from person to person. Jealousy is a normal emotional feedback and doesn't need a special solution. On the contrary, it is dangerous not to be jealous, which proves that you do not have normal emotions. Feeling jealous is always unhappy, so how do you overcome jealousy?

1. Recognize the facts

First of all, find out if the person you are jealous of, that person, is the truth, don't assume, don't exaggerate, you can see the truth from the front. Don't mess with your significant other by being jealous over a small thing, or even something you imagine, it will be a big loss. And he (she) will also think that you are too unreasonable. Therefore, it is necessary to be clear and not to have extreme behavior immediately. This will prepare you for what comes next.

2. Solve the problem

If someone does have a close relationship with your significant other, you have to be positive about the problem. Communicate more with your significant other to let him or her understand that you really care about their relationship. Make the other person feel guilty. Don't confront him head-on, if you get into conflict with him because of this, you have to calm down first. Then the positive feedback of this emotion will bring too many negative results. So you have to face it positively and solve the problem with him or her in a gentle way.

The control of emotions

Maybe, you are very jealous, and you can't control the other person. Then, you have to make some changes yourself (sigh...) You have to understand that the other party is very good, and if you like it, others will like it, but at least you are the winner, right. Also understand that you are also very good, and you can have many people like you. Don't just give in. Be sure to get this right.

When we feel jealous, everyone is associated with many additional feelings that stem from our past experiences, and at this point in time, triggered by events that make us jealous. I think maybe you can occasionally try to talk to your girlfriend about your feelings that are implicated, but if you want the other person to take responsibility for it. It's a rare thing to be honest, because they might not really be that reason. Love is like a delicate flower, if you often throw it more than it should bear, I think you really can hardly expect the delicate and beautiful blooming of this flower.