What Is Love?

There is someone that you are with or want to be with to have a spiritual, psychological, emotional, soulful, or intellectual relationship with. When we think of love, a million things seem to happen to the mind and body. You think of thoughts or the heart eyes popping out your head or maybe even your heart skipped a beat right? It’s this adrenaline, this bodily chemistry, and excitement all at once or heartache all at once.

Please note that what I’m beginning to write isn’t just about relationships with a partner but also with yourself too. So be open minded.

You’re simply, overwhelmed either way your story may go. Why? It’s human nature to want and need as well as to feel to be wanted and needed. Some may say, “Well, no I’m not needy.”

In what context did you process what you’re reading? It’s not about needy in a sense of an addicting desire, but to feel despite of all the continuous crazy chaotic things that the world may have going on and has to offer, you may find that one or a few people who satisfies you psychologically and emotionally . Simple things as far as tokens of appreciation and affirming from others, can also change the dynamics versus when a person does it alone for themselves. As people, we tend to think that we don’t need people but we somehow value material things that we think we need. How can one survive with material than their own personal relationships? I believe we are here to help and work together, but first helping and working on self don’t you think?

There’s things that NEED to be taken care of as far as, mental, emotional and physical self or to another person. Some people learn how to take care of that need by helping others , it’s really funny that way but it happens . You want to put on a $100+ make up to still feel as you may say, “ugly”!?! And it’s not a opinion to afflict anyone externally but you know, how you’re feeling inside. You want a bf/gf/children to fill a void or even for comfort but you’re not even comfortable with yourself . You want that brand new car, but when was it last you went for a doctors visit? We tend to avoid the things that matter to us by filling it with things that doesn’t matter in the beginning or in the end.

First things first, do you know what want means and what need means? GREAT, now tell me, why are they the same, and why are different? And as to how it applies to life, how does it affect us all?

Wants are like addictions and it shares the same desires of our needs. We need to be careful, because we also are tricking ourselves into thinking that what’s necessary is always material or through physical things that doesn’t have life and yes, sometimes expecting too much from others too.

Another, is appreciation. When you appreciate the small things or pay attention to the great small things that surround you daily, bigger opportunities come forth. The universe sought you were more than capable in being responsible enough to take on such opportunity, and yes it rewards you.

You appreciate self, and the reflection of self is through people, nature, environment, circumstance and situations. What you do shows whether you know it or don’t, so also be very mindful with how you may have tendencies of ungratefulness and how it affects not just you but, the world around you too.

Time , does not exist but beautiful things take patience to manifest. You can write down what you want/need onto a piece of paper and keep it close to you and used it as a prayer of your own. It is better than wishing and speaking it out loud.

Foolish people scream at the ground, for the land has not barring fruit when they want it to.

You’re thinking of what you want/need as you read. Write what you can offer as well.

Write it down and keep it on your mind because that will be your new favorite movie.

Also be optimist and avoid pessimism.

Good things come to those who wait, so give patience and grace towards the love and ideas of love you want to come true.

Now, a little bit about me. I’m a young woman almost 21 years of age from Brooklyn, NYC . I’ve experienced enough to understand what love is and what it’s not. As people say, “Chivalry is dead .” I kind of had my hopes and then, my doubts as far as romance hence, making me a hopeless romantic, shouts out to the gods. My ideas of love is simplicity . That would go over a lot of complicated people’s head but it’s true. It’s the consideration that it’s just not about me but it’s about what I find necessary in general and what the world needs as far as love among other things that are obvious to me.

Growing or picking random flowers rather than buying them.

Saying/writing something thoughtful and meaningful.

Be supportive not just physically somewhere for yourself or your partner or friends but to emotionally and psychologically be in tune and invested.

Speaking to nature and animals. Getting into sync or alignment by frequencies and vibrations through art and music. I love art and music, I too do art and music and I find it very therapeutic as much as it is for someone to have a pet.

Caring about things people wouldn’t care about. We tend to be those people who clean up the mess of others while trying to mind our business. That’s just life.

Love is to be at your best despite you feeling your worst. It’s to admit you’re hurting or you just may not be invested mentally at the moment so you need a break, that’s communication. What you feel psychologically and emotionally can show on you physically. So do onto others as you would’ve wanted them to do onto you. It’s about freedom, a relationship with yourself and others should feel easy going rather than a prison and you’re serving time. Please keep in mind, there are different types of love languages for yourself and to others, which I understand can get wonky but as adults we need to learn know how to communicate those things openly and freely to those who may or may not understand. So everything is easier and weeding out the negative outcomes and strengthening the positive ones.

Life is just one big classroom. I can teach, but I too am here taking a seat as much the next person, and class is in session.