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What does loving yourself mean?!?

It means that you have a high level of awareness towards yourself.

By Courtanae HeslopPublished 3 years ago 5 min read

When you think about loving yourself, what comes to mind? Maybe you imagine yourself in a rose-colored bubble of self-love. Or maybe it's not that easy for you. Either way, it's important to know how to love yourself so that your growth and happiness can be supported by this important aspect of life.

It means that you have a high level of awareness towards yourself.

The first step towards loving yourself is being aware of who you are. This means knowing what you like, what you don't like, what your strengths are and where your weaknesses lie. It also means knowing what makes you happy, how to deal with stress and how to motivate yourself when times get tough. The more you know about who you are as a person the easier it will be for others to love who they see in front of them because they'll have a better understanding of the person behind closed doors too!

You know what's good or bad for you.

When you’re in love with yourself, you know what’s good or bad for you. This can be a tricky thing to figure out if you don’t already know it—but once you do, it will be an important part of loving yourself. You know what’s good or bad for you because of your awareness of your own needs and desires; when these are met in a healthy way, life becomes more balanced and easier to navigate. In addition, your ability to recognize what makes us happy and unhappy allows us not only to make choices that support our well-being but also helps us understand others better as well (because we have an understanding of happiness).

You know what gives you energy and what drains it.

Knowing what gives you energy and what drains it is important.

For example, spending time with your kids is great for your energy. It makes you feel happy and supported, which then helps you feel more confident in yourself. You know that they draw on the energy that makes them so special to you, and they do the same by giving it back to you in return.

On the other hand, doing something like cleaning or being stuck in traffic can drain your energy because it doesn’t contribute directly to anything meaningful or important to you—meaning there isn't any positive feedback loop happening here as there is with spending time with loved ones or accomplishing goals at work/school/etc., which all give more than they take away from our lives.

You know in your heart the right thing to do.

You have a good sense of what is right and wrong, and you know what is good for you. You are your own moral compass. You can feel when something feels wrong, or when something will hurt you in some way. This means that if someone tells you to do something that does not feel right, then it’s probably not the best practice for yourself.

Here’s an example: If someone suggests that you should stay at home all day and watch TV instead of going out with friends because it would be more fun than doing anything else with them (which is a lie), then this could be seen as unhealthy behavior because it would bring down your self-esteem by isolating yourself from others and taking away any pleasure or joy in life.

You listen to your inner voice without judgement and without hesitation.

You listen to your inner voice without judgement, without hesitation, and without fear. You listen to your inner voice without distraction. You listen to your inner voice without confusion.

You do not second guess yourself when you hear the still small voice within you that says: "I love myself."

You are kind to yourself and treat yourself in the best way possible.

Loving yourself means being kind to yourself and treating yourself in a way that makes you feel good. For example, it's not loving yourself if you don't give yourself enough rest or if you are constantly criticizing how you look.

Treating yourself well also includes being honest with yourself about your needs and desires—and respecting those needs and desires even when others might not understand them. It's important to treat ourselves well because we deserve it!

You don't blame others when something goes wrong, instead, you ask yourself "how can I improve this situation".

Loving yourself means not blaming others when something goes wrong, instead you ask yourself "how can I improve this situation?". It's important to understand that blaming others is a sign of immaturity, a sign of victim mentality, and a lack of self-awareness. When you blame someone else for your misfortunes in life, then it means you don't believe in your own abilities to change things for yourself.

If we love ourselves more than anything else in the world (like our friends, family and God), then we will be able to easily see when we need to make changes within ourselves so that we can be better human beings.

When you try to improve or succeed in life, you do it for your happiness and not because of pressure from others.

When you try to improve or succeed in life, do it for your happiness and not because of pressure from others.

People can be a pain! They often tell you to change yourself or stop doing what makes you happy. But what happens when someone criticizes your work? Or when they say that something is wrong with the way that you live?

It's important to have an understanding of why we should do things for ourselves and not for other people.

It's easier for you to accept criticism and learn from it.

Remember that criticism is a gift. It can be hard to accept and even harder to really understand, but it's an indicator that you're doing something right. And when we do things right, it's only natural for us to make mistakes along the way. Criticism also shows that you're not being complacent with your current situation: if you were, no one would have anything negative to say about you!

So rather than letting criticism get under your skin or discourage you from trying again, look at it as proof that there's room for improvement—and then go out and do better!

Loving yourself isn't always easy but it is important for growth and happiness

Let’s talk about the importance of loving yourself.

It’s not always easy to love yourself, and that is okay. Not only is it okay, but it's necessary for growth and happiness in your life. There are times when you will struggle with your own self-love, especially if you're used to thinking about yourself as an imperfect person who doesn't deserve the best things in life or whatever else you may feel makes up someone who loves themselves fully and completely. But guess what? You do! And now that I've said that, let me tell you why...

In order for us to be able to accept criticism as constructive feedback instead of negative comments about ourselves (AKA insults), we need positive feelings toward ourselves already established first so we can begin processing those feelings into actionable steps toward change.* If our inner monologue is saying "I'm not good enough," then naturally our outer dialogue will start voicing things like: "You're worthless." When this happens repeatedly day after day over months or years--and sometimes even decades--it becomes harder and harder

Conclusion

Loving yourself is an important step towards inner peace and happiness. It helps you identify your flaws, so you can work on them. It also helps you accept criticism with grace and humility instead of feeling attacked by it. When you are able to truly love yourself, it shows in your relationships too!

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About the Creator

Courtanae Heslop

Courtanae Heslop is a multi-genre writer and business owner.

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