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Loving yourself means being your own best friend, no matter what happens in life.

When we love ourselves and accept ourselves, we don't have to worry about what others think.

By Courtanae HeslopPublished 4 years ago 5 min read

It's 2022, and it's time to stop hating ourselves. That might seem like an absurd statement to make, but it's true. The first step in loving yourself is accepting who you are and what makes up your personality. If you hate the way you look, or wish that you were someone else entirely, then there's no way that you can truly love yourself because those things always come back into play as something negative when we compare ourselves to others.

Loving yourself is not selfish. (If you are avoiding this section because it's about self-love, please come back later.)

Self-love isn’t selfish. It’s the first step to loving others.

Self-love is about accepting who you are and being kind to yourself. It’s about being your own best friend because no one else is going to be as good at it as you are, so you may as well give yourself a break when things aren't going great.

When we love ourselves and accept ourselves, we don't have to worry about what others think.

Loving yourself is about being your own best friend. When we love ourselves and accept ourselves, we don't have to worry about what others think. We will always be there for yourself and no one else, even if that means making a tough choice or saying no to something you really want to do.

When you learn how to put yourself first and love yourself unconditionally, life becomes much easier because there are fewer things that cause stress in your life. You feel comfortable with who you are at any given moment because it's not necessary for us all the time; It's just part of our human nature!

It's okay to change, but we must do so with kindness and love in mind.

In life, we are all constantly changing. If you ask someone who has been in the same job for years to describe themselves, they might say something like “I’m an introvert with a passion for reading and writing.” But if you asked them the same question ten years later (or even three), their answer would likely be completely different: “I’m a social butterfly who lives for live music and travel.”

This is because people change over time—and it's okay! The important thing is that as we change, we should do so with kindness and love in mind. It's not okay to change yourself just because someone else wants you too or because it makes sense at the time; instead, it's much more important that you change because it makes sense for YOU personally right now AND because those changes feel good on YOUR terms now AND only after careful consideration of how each step affects YOUR future goals and well-being rather than others'.

So don't be afraid of making changes in your life--just make sure they're ones that improve things FOR YOU!

When we accept and love who we are, it gives us the freedom to be our own person.

When we accept and love who we are, it gives us the freedom to be our own person.

We don’t have to worry about what others think. We can be confident in our own skin, comfortable with who we are and proud of who we are.

Your friends won't abandon you when you lose weight. They won't mock you or call you names if you change your style of clothing.

Your friends will support you and be there for you, even if you lose weight or change your style of clothing.

If you don't feel comfortable with your body, if you're unhappy with how big your butt is or don't like the way your face looks in pictures—your friends will still like YOU, no matter what!

Your friends are great people who love learning new things about each other. If they didn't care about making sure that they were on their best behavior around you, then they wouldn't bother trying!

Your family will still see the real you and still reach out when they need support.

You are the center of your own universe. Your family will still see the real you and still reach out when they need support. It's not a coincidence that they love you; they see what makes you special, and they want to be a part of that person's life as much as possible.

Family members aren't perfect; no one is. But at the end of the day, your family will always be there for you in one way or another—no matter how big or small their contribution may seem at first glance.

You may not believe me now—and I don't blame you! Family can sometimes cause rifts between people instead of making them stronger—but once things start falling apart for whatever reason (and trust me...they will), then it becomes clear why family ties are so important: because no one else gets us like our families do!

People treat us like a friend or a stranger based on their perception of who we are inside.

  • People treat us like a friend or a stranger based on their perception of who we are inside. It's the same with our friends and family. If they perceive that you're an amazing person, they'll treat you as such. If they perceive that you're not so great, then chances are they won't be very nice to you at all!
  • The same goes for strangers: if people think we're friendly or warmhearted, then naturally it would be easier for them to approach us in public places like grocery stores and restaurants (and even bars!). And if not...well...you get the picture.

Loving yourself is not selfish.

Loving yourself is not selfish. Loving yourself is not a weakness. Loving yourself is not a bad thing. Loving yourself is not a sign of narcissism, self-obsession or selfishness.

As you can see, there are many reasons why loving yourself might be "impossible" for some people, but in reality it's just a matter of reframing what love means to them and may even be an excellent decision for their own wellbeing and happiness in the long run!

Conclusion

When we love ourselves and accept ourselves, we don't have to worry about what others think. We can be our own best friend, no matter what happens in life. This is true for everyone, regardless of where they are in their journey or how far along they've come. The most important thing is that you are here now reading this article—you're already on your way!

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About the Creator

Courtanae Heslop

Courtanae Heslop is a multi-genre writer and business owner.

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  • Carol Ann Townend3 years ago

    Very inspirational. Loving yourself is important, and it's good for your health too.

  • Another great story and can be helpful and inspirational to others. Thank you for writing this

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