Unable to Commit

The math is too simple and the access to people has not aid us when it comes to commitment in relationships. We have our fun as if there is all the time in the world, but like it or not; most of us have already lived our mid-lives during the ages of 35 to 45. While most of us think the 50s are the half way there mark, its not that common that we all make it to the century mark. We can debate about technology, medicine and health all day, but most of us decline at the age of late 80s or even 70s. However with short time on this Earth, somehow we find it difficult to commit to others in a system that is designed for partnership. I really think that we struggle with commitment because of the options that we have at our fingertips.

Social media is probably the number one killer when it comes to commitment in mind. The swipe left, swipe right mentality gives too much ease and options for us to search for that "perfect" mate. So before we can explore the honest attentions of our potential opposite, we can also eliminate them before the first reply in our inbox. Why is our level to commit on such a small level so hard to maintain? Should we as individuals who seek serious relationships try to practice commitment on a simple level? Some of you may agree or disagree, but I submit to you if there is a problem committing on a smaller level; then there will be a problem committing on a higher level such as marriage.

"Prime Time" Dion Sanders says it best! "You look good, you play good. You play good, then pay good!" It all starts with the mental capability within. Now we want to be with likeminded individuals who would desire the same things as we want. However, we can only control our thoughts, actions and the people we allow in our lives. Think about it! We perform to the level of our company! I am not telling people to be committed or loyal to another person at the first sight, but be loyal and committed to yourself. Setting boundaries within yourself is very powerful and speaks volume to others without you saying a word. The simple act discontinuing contact with another person just because they will not return your call is sending a message that my company is seldom unique and uncommon so you better treat me with respect. The most unhealthiest thing a person could do is never return a call or a message. However, the most damaging thing a person could do is keep calling or texting that individual who is not reciprocating communication. I know, this is about commitment. The key is being able to commit to yourself, so that you reflect to others that your commitment is worth having.

We all had to go through it one time or another. We kept putting energy into that person who could care less in return. Move on, because there is better out there who wants to match your energy. I had to learn the hard way myself. Pouring all that undeserved energy into women. Unfortunately, most women eat that attention up because they crave it (this is not up for debate). In today's dating world, people don't have time to waste and if the appearance is displayed that this person is playing around and their words aren't matching there actions, its time to stage left real quick.

Women, I am trying to help you out as to why you get "ghosted" and there is not a clue. A man with real substance appreciates your responses to his messages. He appreciates your reciprocation and same level of energy. SEX IS TOO EASY! WOMEN HAVE TO COME WITH MORE THESE DAYS. Now my general rule when I first meet a woman is if she doesn't return a text within 24hrs, she is yesterday's paper. That simple! I'm thinking that if she is having a problem with basic communication, then what other problems will surface if I continue to try to spend time with this woman. Women better stop playing these games and be available if you like him, and this energy should be reciprocated. This is basic commitment, not marriage.

There are many areas to discuss, but for purpose to trigger a quick thought; I'm going to keep this short and simple. Practicing the major stuff on a small level will seem like ease when you get there. Only if most folks would understand this at an early age, the rate of divorce and infidelity would be lower than it is today.