Top 10 Reasons Why People Divorce

Top 10 Reasons to Divorce: Unfortunately, our country has an extremely high divorce rate, and the most threatened households are the new ones! Although when they go to the altar, few young people think that it will not work, many of these marriages end in divorce, perhaps precisely because young people do not realize that marriage also means work. INS says that over 20% of marriages ended in divorce two years ago!

So a top 10 reasons to get divorced can be interesting, precisely because it seems like today, it's so easy to end a marriage… Love is not everything and can't sustain a relationship on its own, but young idealists believe that if they love each other, nothing matters…

Top 10 Reasons to Divorce:

Addiction to alcohol (or other substances). Alcohol destroys many marriages and destroys the addicted person. The personality changes caused by addiction, the expenses to support this addiction, the joining of negative habits (gambling), unemployment, and a negative entourage destroy either suddenly or gradually many marriages.

Many spouses try to support and cure an alcoholic partner - but alcohol traps the person and healing is impossible, especially when the addict does not realize how big the problem is. In other countries, addiction is not just about alcohol, it's about drugs.

Infidelity. The 2nd place in the top 10 reasons for divorce is the one that destroys both marriages and many relationships. It's hard to maintain a relationship after you've been cheated on, especially if it didn't happen just once.

Trust is destroyed, to which are added the intense feelings of betrayal, anger, sadness, disappointment and a relationship can not usually survive infidelity. Sometimes, infidelity is somehow provoked by the cheated person (who no longer pays attention, no longer has sex) but even so, it is a betrayal far too great to be forgiven (and if it is forgiven, it is still not forgotten).

Physical violence. Here is a situation that would theoretically involve an immediate separation of partners. When one of the spouses is physically assaulted (and even sexually assaulted - marital rape), everything that sustained the relationship is destroyed: love, trust, security, respect, appreciation.

Physical violence is the second reason why marriages fall apart in our country (after alcoholism). And even so, many abused women do not step into divorce, often out of fear, sometimes out of lack of options (they have no place to live and no financial resources), sometimes "for children" (I suppose children should have a father ). Many women end up divorcing only after reaching the limit: when they are repeatedly assaulted and at least once very severely, or when violence is directed at children.

Possessiveness, jealousy, and control. Even if the violence is practically non-existent, some marriages end because of the exacerbated possessiveness of a partner, the extreme jealousy that leads to scandals, and the need for control and verification.

One of the partners (not necessarily the man) looks at the other as personal property, forgetting respect and the right to individuality - he tries to change him, he manipulates him by lowering his self-confidence through constant criticism, he controls him (what he does, where he goes, the couple's budget) and check it. That is until the partner thus controlled can no longer stand such a prison…

Emotional distance. 5th place in the top 10 reasons for divorce; the partners gradually move away from each other, almost without realizing it, and reach a point where they no longer recognize each other, they no longer find what united them (emotional distance correlates with sexual distance). Although it can be resolved through work and communication, spouses sometimes prefer to escape from this situation, to adopt the "simpler" solution of divorce.

Constant quarrels and scandals. Quite often, quarrels over budget, money - but they can be related to different reasons. Why do husbands suddenly end up unable to communicate, constantly arguing? Why does a simple discussion suddenly turn into a scandal? Because one or both spouses are frustrated - about their life, their relationship, their profession…

When you reach a certain age and notice that everything you wanted is just dreams and you are not fulfilled at all, the intense frustration will spill over. the most accessible: husband/wife. And so constant quarrels are born, intense out of nothing.

Incompatibility. Before the wedding, young people do not think if they will be able to live harmoniously together if they can support a marriage. That's why, not long after, I can realize that they are simply not compatible.

In connection with future expectations, in connection with professional life (one may want a career, the other with children), in connection with interests, or even sex. This is generally the case for couples who did not live together before marriage, who did not know each other well enough to find out if they fit.

The "disappearance" of love. Can it happen that you wake up one morning and realize that you no longer love the person next to you? It seems so! There are cases where spouses do not have big problems, but simply say that they no longer love each other!

How does love disappear? Sometimes, maybe it wasn't even about love: but about the confusion between passion, physical attraction (which diminishes over time), and love! At other times, you suddenly fall in love with someone else. And other times, you can't find what you loved in the other person…

Various diseases or ailments. Although it may sound cruel, if one of the spouses suffers from serious illness (paralysis, for example), divorce can sometimes result - it does not want to become a burden. If one of the spouses develops mental disorders and needs hospitalization, a real marriage can no longer exist (although some spouses choose to separate without officially divorcing).

Female or male infertility can be another problem that sometimes leads to the inability of the two to communicate, to form another couple. So are sexual disorders - impotence or frigidity (the real one, coming from mental disorders).

Homosexual orientation. Last place in the top 10 reasons to get divorced - homosexuality/lesbianism! You may think that these situations are not common - and indeed, they are not in our country (because few want to openly acknowledge their different orientation).

But in other countries, there are support groups, therapy groups, and special discussion groups just for people who find out that their spouse has a different sexual orientation! It often happens that the person becomes aware and accepts the sexual orientation only in middle age - so after years and years of marriage…