To The Person Who's In Love With Someone That Isn’t Ready

You're never prepared to fall in love. You go into it protecting your heart hoping you don't get hurt and wishing for the best but more times than not you find yourself hurt in the end.

They say love is supposed to be one of the best things that happens to you. But what happens when you fall in love with someone who you thought was ready but wasn't? Who played their cards just right to have you and everyone around you convinced they were ready. Maybe for a minute part of them was ready but the problem is, it was only for a minute.

One of the most painful things we can do is live our lives believing what our minds tell us. Curiosity is the essence of our existence and that can break a heart within moments. We are willing to take a risk if it means being happy. Even if we know in the end we will be hurt. But why? Why do we crave someone so much that we know is going to hurt us? Because sadly, one moment of happiness is enough to erase all the pain you felt before and you feel that it's worth it. You feel that this one small moment of happiness for you will be the same moment of happiness for them. That it can make them feel things that you've been feeling and wanting them to feel all along. But sadly it's only a moment of fun for them. It's not real because they aren't ready. So why do you believe that this little moment can change them?

As a human, you believe that you can change people. You believe that you are the one. The one person that can make someone change. Make them ready for you. Ready for what you want in life but that's not how it works. You don't change someone. Someone changes because it's what they want and until they are ready to change, it doesn't matter what you do or say. You are playing into their fun. You are nothing more than a piece in their game and their game contains multiple pieces just like you...

They aren't running away from a person that they know is good for them. Hell, maybe even the best for them. They are running away from pieces of themselves that aren't willing to fix. They are running away from the truth. It's never easy to admit that you need to mature. It's never easy to admit that you have things to work on. That's why it's easier to run away than it is to work on parts of yourself.

Don’t waste your time on someone that isn’t sure. Someone who isn’t ready. You will spend days, months, hell even years waiting around for this person. Don't do it... You will look back and realize all of the time you lost on someone that was never worth an ounce of your time. Listen to your friends when they tell you the truth. Listen to your family when they tell you that you deserve better... Because you do. Focus your time on someone who knows your value. Focus your time on someone that will give you, their time. Focus on someone who checks in you, who makes sure you have what you need. And not just physically; emotionally, mentally, spiritually. Focus on someone who is sure what they’re wanting from you from day one.

Do not ever settle for what you think you deserve. Always settle for what you KNOW in your heart you deserve. It will be the beginning of a very happy life for you.

Put yourself first.