Time it tells us that the words said can not count, love can be replaced again

Many people's vision of the college is just this scenario: spacious and bright study rooms, stepping on the hovering athletic field, quiet and peaceful boulevards ...... these quiet and beautiful scenes, it seems that often have to join the other half of the love, to be considered the ideal youth campus.

For the vast majority of people, a relationship in college seems to have become a mandatory course, "to get a better college", in addition to the pursuit of a better future, to a large extent, perhaps to "meet a better person".

"I believe in love again", "I don't believe in love anymore", and "When will sweet love be my turn", these three sentences are flooding the internet, one by one. The young people are relentlessly forwarding and commenting on ...... making everyone reflect on such dynamics and emotional reincarnation: what exactly is the love I need?

One night after lights out, in our dorm room in the night talk, suddenly chatted about this aspect of the topic, someone suddenly said, "Do you believe it or not, the first six of us to get off is certainly Miao Su." I was stunned, he said the reason I certainly know is that usually, I can often communicate with girls very naturally, while they, just to hand a girl something face will be red.

I replied casually at the time: "How is it possible." The man immediately responded: "How is it impossible, you and girls talk the highest." I was silent for a long time and replied, "But I don't want to find a date." He replied with a very discursive sentence: "Want to is a matter of will, can be a matter of ability. You are the only one of us who can get out of it."

For a while, I didn't know how to answer. The university is supposed to be a sacred hall where all kinds of ideas collide, and college students are still students in the end, so they should take learning as a priority. In other words, if you want to fall in love in college, it should be a healthy relationship where both parties promote each other and make progress together, rather than spend the whole day together, ridiculously spending their youth.

I held my tongue for a long time and came up with a sentence that didn't quite fit: "I still insist on this point: "Any relationship that doesn't aim at marriage is a hooligan." The words just fell, and they sighed: "College relationships are supposed to be just for fun, rarely will there be marriage."

Since when has falling in love become a game of "just for fun"? I think it should not be since the Liang Zhu, after all, turned into a butterfly; Xu is not Cui Yingying and Zhang Sheng, in the end, they are willing to challenge the traditional rituals for each other; think it will not be Xu Xian and the White Lady, not to mention Xu Xian willing to guard the tower for her for many years, the White Lady poured all her strength to Manshanshan; Romeo and Juliet naturally can not be an example of this.

Cui Yingying and Zhang Sheng

Looking at the ancient and modern, a brief look at the Chinese and foreign, I have never in any worthy of being praised in the good story to experience "love only the immediate pleasure, the future things to wait for it to come to say" this layer of meaning. The traditional Chinese concept of marriage requires "door-to-door", which may seem very realistic, less Mary Sue-style romance, but this is a very true statement. A relationship, between two lovers, is excellent, but when the family and the social background are involved, the romance instantly turned into a bubble.

To give a sizable example: Korean and Japanese dramas are common in the perfection of the campus love story, the male lead is high and handsome and is a steady first in the school, and the female lead is usually a sweet and cute type, not much brain, put long-term considerations, these two will certainly step into two completely different worlds, he may be in a higher school to further his education, to achieve a career, she may even be a problem to graduate. For the sake of ratings, the writers have mixed a minuscule fragment of their lives, but inadvertently shaped generations of people's view of love as "love are just a face and a bore".

Film and television culture has always promoted the idea of love stories that are so cloying, as if the meaning of love is to play cute and cuddly with each other, and nothing else. Think of Andre's description of the game he saw his friend play with his girlfriend: "They were sitting on the edge of the bed, holding dolls in their hands, touching each other and making that "awwwwwwww" sound. They were college students in their twenties, but they acted like three-year-olds, which I didn't find cute at all, just ridiculous and childish ......"

Andre and his mother Long Yingtai

Of course, it's not that everyone aspires to this form of romantic relationship. Some people prefer two people to stick together all the time, and naturally, there will be people who want to keep a certain amount of space for themselves in a relationship. How you live happens to be what you want, that is certainly good, but in many cases what you meet is not what you want, many people will be discouraged, this is another point: love, always need to give up some in exchange for some other not too equal, the key depends on whether you are willing to give up. How is such, work and rest, diet and many other aspects also the same?

In general, I will not start a relationship easily, because the idealized relationship in my mind, must be based on emotions, and objective conditions to make a rational weighing of a serious choice, where a few sweet words will be the dizzying rash decision.

College students, don't fall in love for the sake of falling in love ......