Three Reason Only

Some fools rush in (myself included) and some, no matter how much time spent before marriage, there is always a mystery about a person.

I was asked by a young lady why am I considering dating in other cultures. Well my response was simple, this culture in the USA takes the responsibility of marriage so lightly!

I can only consider three major reasons why couples should divorce and even in other cultures, these three reasons are not valid for divorce and a thought to talk things out should be a first solution before divorce. I would disagree to an extent because once that threshold is crossed, there is no recovering from the big three in my opinion.

Although I have slight differences of other cultures, but I need to call it quits when infidelity is a factor. Now infidelity comes in all forms. We’ve all seen the show “Cheaters” so we know of that type of infidelity without question. However, this form of infidelity can also be abusive, which I will touch on later. The act of hiding money or being deceitful about finances, is the highest form of infidelity and dishonesty without a question. If anything is required to hold a family unit together, it is finances if one person is dishonest about how much money is being generated or if they’re hiding money or spending on things that they shouldn’t be spending, then that’s a form of financial infidelity. Look for ways to tear a marriage apart in any form of infidelity will do it in a heartbeat.

Now the second reason for me is being abusive. Abuse can come in many forms abuse can come in physical, mental and financial. None of the three are any acceptable form of abuse. No one has a right to put their hands on a person in any circumstances. I don’t care how upset they are or what has been done to make them upset (which most women need to stop trapping men like this), no one has the right to put their hands on another person. At that time, I don’t care what point the relationship is in or what has been accomplished in a relationship materialistically when that individual puts their hands on the other person, it is time to go. Mental abuse can come in many forms, such as talking down to the opposite partner being condescending saying negative things in the presence of others or in private. Mental abuse does nothing but tears the person down and no one should be a part of that atmosphere. I was personally a victim of being in this atmosphere once before and it is not a good feeling. Financial abuse, of course can come from gambling mismanaging the funds purposefully which ties into what I was talking about earlier financial infidelity those two can intersect with one another financial abuse financial and infidelity, can be considered all one in the same. However it’s classified, no one should be a part of it and they should make ways to get away from whoever is taking advantage of them financially.

The third and most important, not being able to fulfill the capacity as a mate. I’m not going to go into specifics gender roles because each household displays has different dynamics. If you can’t hold your agreement together with another individual to make the household run then shame on the situation. Understand the commitment made when marrying a person. This was an agreement to run a household or join lives with a person based on a mutual understanding. Well, at least it should’ve been a mutual understanding or agreement. This is why a lot of people rushing in without conversation and conversation and that is why we have a very high divorce rate in this country.

The only recipient from the situation are sometimes the offspring of a unhealthy relationship, with a piss-poor concept on how to live together.

If there is a glimpse of an individual showing these negative behaviors, run in the opposite direction!