This Too Shall Pass

At some point of Life, most of us have been left wondering how to get over heartbreak. Our heart feel stunned and feel episodes of sobbing, rage, despair as if the life has ended.

Betrayal, Being Rejected in life, Loss of a loved one, Failure in a Hard work

Somehow everybody experiences these situations in our life. You literally feel the pain in your heart, you avoid your friends, you can't concentrate on your work and you can't think about anything else. You really need to get over this.

Do you feel like nothing works?

Things we do but doesn't work:

1. Sleeping a lot:

Heartbreak is a complex emotional experience. Although sleeping for a while can help you feel more rested and re-energized, it may not necessarily provide a permanent solution to the pain of heartbreak. During adequate sleep, our bodies repair and regenerate tissues. But over sleeping may not necessarily "get rid of" heartbreak.

2. Overeating or indulging in unhealthy:

While this may provide temporary relief, it can lead to more problems down the line. It can cause you decreased energy levels which may not make you to involve in positive activities. It can negatively impact mental health, leading to feelings of guilt, shame, and decreased self-esteem.

3. Seeking constant distraction:

You seek to have a distraction by doing silly things, which actually doesn't distract you from the main cause. Moreover this is just a temporary relief sometimes.

4. Blaming yourself:

This can keep you stuck in a negative thought pattern and prevent you from moving on. Sometimes people transform themselves to the feeling by sinking in them instead of just feeling for what happened. Let yourself feel for a certain amount of time—say, an hour. But you should stop it to a limit and don't blame yourself for everything.

5. Stop trying:

When you had a failure, you think to stop working for it anymore. You may feel discouraged and think that you are not eligible for anything. Its okay to have the feeling at the beginning, but it is not a solution. It may lead you to be a low-esteemed person and creates negativity even if you do something else.

So, how do you feel relieved after a heart break?

Others may comfort you in such a situation by saying that if one light disappears, another bright light takes its place. But that light needs to be found by Us. It just doesn't appear like a magic.

We need to find it in a healthy way and it is a slow process to completely achieve it.

Things which actually work if done in a right way:

1. Seek support:

Reach out to friends, family, or a mental health professional for support. Talking about your feelings and getting support can be helpful in the healing process. Talk to trusted friends and family members about your feelings and experiences. They can offer a listening ear and offer practical advice.

2. Engage in healthy distractions:

Find healthy ways to distract yourself from the pain, such as reading, watching movies, or engaging in a new hobby. It should be long term and make you feel engaged in it such as challenging yourself in exercise and work outs, go on a trip to somewhere you fond of, etc.,

3. Think about your proud moments:

Thinking proud about yourself can help in relieving stress. Feeling proud of yourself is not about being perfect, but rather about recognizing your efforts, strengths, and achievements. When you feel proud of yourself, it can boost your self-esteem and increase your sense of self-worth. This can help you feel more confident and capable of handling hard turns in your life.

In conclusion, it is common for humans to focus more on positive things and forget or downplay negative things, especially when they experience positive events. This is known as the "positivity bias" or "optimism bias".

Life goes on as nothing had happened, when you are positive no matter what happens.

It's important to find a balance between focusing on the positive and acknowledging and processing negative experiences in a healthy way.

Overall, This too shall pass!