The Truth Behind Good Deeds Going Unnoticed And Who Really Sees Through The Facade

I will start by stating what the Oxford Dictionary defines as a good doer. A thing, especially a cultivated plant or domesticated animal, that thrives or performs well without special attention.

In a perfect world that definition would include humans. At least that's how most of us feel when we've honored someone with our gracious time, efforts and good deeds. We as humans think that our acts of kindness can go unnoticed and we will be perfectly fine. But then there comes a time when you are sitting all alone wondering where everyone went?

Don't get me wrong, that still shouldn't stop you from reaching out and helping someone when you can. However, it does start making you doubt yourself. You may begin to loathe the one thing that made you feel important in this life because you knew you excelled.

You start questioning your whole belief system and asking yourself these types of questions. How many times should I come to someone's rescue only to drown all by myself when I need that person the most? It starts to make you question humanity as a whole. Are there any decent human beings left that will give back? Is there anyone out there who really cares what happens to me? Because in all honesty, as humans, we need that recognition. We need that same appreciation and love we think we put out in the world.

There are however, a few rare individuals who truly do work solely from the heart of the matter. Their acts of kindness are honest and not from a place of malice or deceit. These are the few individuals who in return get hurt the most. The reason is simply because, "Who does that?"

There are so many people who only lend a helping hand so they can post it on Facebook. The need to have their whole social circle honor and praise them for what they've done. But should we really put people on blast like that? And does that really make you a "good doer" if you are only doing it for the attention and praise? I've seen the same people wish bad luck on someone. These are the same someone's they were just getting praised for helping. The reason? Because they didn't feel they were returned the favor as needed. So, what are you? And do you really know how Miss Luck works? She's a bitch for sure but she'll also give back. You just have to be willing to wait for her. Between us, she may even use the most unlikely source no one saw coming.

In my experiences it's generally not the ones you think will actually get you through something that actually does. You know the ones we feel should have our back? The ones we vowed to love or the ones who swore they'd never hurt us? Not saying these people always abandon us. It's just sometimes people are put on our life's path and we can't quite figure out why. It scares us a bit because why are they being so nice? Why are they trying to help us? If you have ever asked yourself these questions it's probably because you are one of those rare individuals. Guess what? I bet someone has asked their selves the same questions about you. It's because you gave a piece of your heart, time, shoulder, ear or simply your arms that kept someone else steady; all while being selfless and not expecting anything in return. I mean, why do it if you really expect a return? Just know, that was Miss Luck paying you back when you needed it most. Sometimes the pay back isn't huge either. It's those simple small things that can erase a multitude of screw ups. Because those "screw ups" probably weren't as big as you thought they were to begin with. People will usually over exaggerate those to make themselves feel better for actually being a shitty person to you.

I have often heard these people called the gems of the earth. You want to know the funny part? These gems are usually the ones who have the worst reputations. I shit you not. They are the ones who get called the whores, the drunks, the addicts and the bat shit crazies. The ones most people would never in a million years associate their selves with. Maybe we shouldn't be too quick to judge a person by their status in life. I mean what if that person who's living a life most people look down their nose at is the only one who can relate enough to what you are going through to help? They can fix a situation no one else on earth could handle? The biggest question most humans ask, "What would people think of me?". Just so you know, those people's opinions you care so much about are usually the ones who won't think twice about leaving you in that ditch life sometimes throws us in. You all of a sudden fall into one of those judgmental labels given to people. Let that sink in.

As humans we have to try and live our best lives. Sometimes that means going against the grain and having to hear how our actions are wrong. What if you accepting help from an unlikely source helps them as well? That's a double feature in life's movie theater now isn't it? If we are showing compassion, love and grace are we really that far off the right path? Well, from where I stand that's actually how you are really supposed to live your life. You may say no, I say yes.

So, do your good deeds and share them with the world if that brings you joy. Just know you got your instant gratification when everyone tells you what a wonderful person you are. And try not to be too sore when you don't get the pay back you expected because it simply doesn't work like that.

So, are we really doing everything we possibly can?