The Most Common 9 Mistakes That Affect Your Life

"There are three extremely hard things: steel, diamond, and getting to know yourself," said Benjamin Franklin. But none of these challenges are too great for human desire and intelligence. Today we are not dealing with heavy metal processing techniques, nor with the art of diamond grinding, but I want to suggest that you get to know each other better, from the perspective of some very common mistakes of thinking, which can affect your life extremely hard.

1. All-or-nothing thinking

It is good to know what you want, what you can, and what you expect from yourself, from others, from life in general; But such thinking can confuse you.

If you put everything in extremes, whether it's white or black, if you're convinced that success is a total and complete failure, if you divide people into the same categories: good guys, you have an increased risk of picking up the unwanted effects of a thought dichotomous: a value of low esteem, procrastination, exaggeration, discouragement pessimism, and frustration.

So beware of "all or nothing" expressions. Avoid negative thinking patterns, be more flexible and more realistic in your expectations.

2. Generalization

If something bad happened to you on one occasion, someone misbehaved at some point, if you were wrong or wrong, it doesn't mean that things will always be the same. In other words, a negative event is a negative event, and that doesn't make it an endless pattern of failures.

You can't live indefinitely thinking about what bad things could happen again; you will be demoralized, you will not try new experiences, you will be haunted by failure, anxiety, unnecessary suffering.

Yes, based on past experiences, you may have certain expectations about the present or future, but keep in mind that generalization is a hypothesis, not a fact, and you have enough evidence to support what you believe.

3. Mental filters

Thinking through a mental filter means tending to highlight one aspect of a situation to the detriment of others that should also be considered. When you perceive reality through the filter of old models, you are not objective.

Consider other filters when choosing to think about someone or something, think about what is true, honorable, beautiful, pure, praiseworthy, and admirable. Change the pessimistic perspective to the real one!

4. Reading thoughts

Yes, I know it's so desirable to know what others think, but so far no one was able to send in the perfect solution, which is not strange. Give up rushing to conclude, only based on intentions or assumptions.

No, you don't know exactly what the other person is thinking, you don't know exactly what he is talking about, and you're not sure why he decided one way or another. Don't put other people's words in your mouth and listen without making assumptions! If in doubt, ask, just as you would like others to ask you before judging you by their imagination.

5. Deadly thoughts

"It's going to be awful," "It's the end of life," "I'll never recover," are expressions that destroy your healthy thinking. Stop imagining bad things all the time and stop making scenarios about how gloomy life can be. Your thoughts can turn into obsessions, you can panic and you can't see the good part of each day.

If something bad can happen, then it either happens or doesn't happen. Why not think like that? Give up predicting the future, imagining the darkest scenarios, but approach each situation from a rational perspective, using arguments.

6. Exaggerated thoughts

The amplification of the bad things or the minimization of the good ones is the two extremes of exaggerated thinking. Replace the words "terrible, terrible, horrible" with "bad, unpleasant, inconvenient." There is a big difference between a catastrophe and the less pleasant things that can happen to you every day.

Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT ain't for me either. When trials are inexplicable, don't get lost in catastrophic thinking. As long as there is life, there is hope!

7. Blaming

Each of us contributes to the general state of affairs, but it does not mean that we are guilty of life. Sometimes we just can't help but make mistakes. it's a tragedy. Forgive yourself, ask forgiveness from those you have wronged, and move on, learning the lesson. It is of no use to remain captive in the snares of guilt and to weep for pity.

8. Emotional thinking

If you think that what you feel is real, you are wrong. Emotional thinking is a trap in which people often feel good. It suits them to interpret reality based on emotions. Feeling we have 'Run out of gas' emotionally. If you feel bad, it means something is wrong. Yes, emotions can be a landmark, they can give you some clues, but they can't control your decisions. Pleasure is not the barometer to lead your life. Keep the balance between emotion and reason.

9. Labeling

There are times when we need to say things by name, and from here to using the wrong labels is a small step. So beware of putting adjectives in front of people and repeating them constantly. This will lead to intensified feelings of anger, polarized relationships, conflict and hostility, a broken sense of self-worth.

Replace a defamatory word with a recommendation to correct the behavior. Be respectful of others and tactfully correct situations in which a person is judged rather than a deed.

Do not think that if these cognitive distortions do not apply to you, you have a healthy mindset. Other mistakes affect your life. And most of them start with thoughts.

In the presence of specific activators, all these thoughts turn into emotions that seriously endanger your well-being. To have healthy thinking, you need constant mental hygiene, a balanced lifestyle, and quality relationships with others.

If you want to change something in your life today or solve certain problems, keep in mind Albert Einstein's wise thought, "We can't solve problems using the same kind of thinking we had when we created them."