The Love That You Don't Expect

I wasn’t expecting this...

I wasn’t expecting him…

I was bound and determined that I was fully, utterly and confidently content with being on my own; single and loving it.

I had zero intentions of falling for him; I had zero intentions of letting us become anything more than a one night stand.

I have only had one serious relationship in my life, it ended and I was loving being single again; I loved figuring out who I was and creating my own life. I enjoyed the hook ups, flings and everything that comes along with the single life of a 25 year old woman.

I was having a #HotGirlSummer like it was nobody’s business.

I swiped right on him.

He swiped right on me.

He wasn’t anything out of the ordinary, but he was extremely adorable, and 6’4", so I messaged him. He was meant to be just another one of my summer time conquests.

He had other plans.

We continued to see each other, despite me being very vocal about my inability to maintain a relationship, we agreed just having non-committed fun would work.

Then we started hanging out weekly, and we started doing things like dinner, beach dates and breakfast dates.

I started falling for him.

He continued to fall for me.

I was working 17 hours away from home this summer, and he lived about 2 hours away from where I was working. I wasn’t confident in my ability to be in a long distance relationship, but we decided that we’d give it a try when summer ended.

Near the end of the summer, he was driving me back to my summer residence, we were laughing, like we do very often, then I so naturally looked over at him as he was driving, I hugged his arm, stared up at his adorable smile and said, “F*ck, I love you…" immediately panicking and saying, “Oh god. Oh no. I’m sorry…” and buried my head into his arm.

He looked over, grinning so big, and said “It’s okay. I love you too.”

I’ve never felt so relieved and happy all at once.

I wasn’t expecting to fall for him.

I wasn’t expecting to fall for him so quickly, either.

But everything just fell into place.

We’ve been together for 3 months, and long distance is almost over. We've met each other's families, went on a week long vacation together and I love him more and more every day.

I can see a long and prosperous future with this man, and I can't wait.

He makes me so happy, he makes me feel loved, sexy and confident. He loves me for me and I trust him endlessly.

I wasn’t expecting this.

I wasn't expecting him.

I wasn't expecting him to be everything I needed and more.

I don’t even believe I knew this kind of bond was possible; I had been so jaded by my past relationship and flings that I had given up hope. I didn't believe there was a man out there who is decent, loving and caring.

I didn't believe there was a man out there for me.

I had stopped looking for something that I had decided didn’t exist.

It’s so easy to dismiss the idea of finding the right guy for you after putting in years of effort to find them and constantly getting burned.

It was easier to pretend like I didn’t want a relationship then to actively work towards one and get shut down, ghosted or dumped again.

But he surprised me; I surprised me.

It took some effort, but I found my perfect guy.

I wasn’t expecting this.

I wasn’t expecting him.

But the best things in life come unexpectedly.

I know that’s super cheesy, but trust me... almost the minute you stop looking for something, that's when it decides that it’s going to find you.