The Fastest and Wisest Way to Bring More Love into Your Life

When you plan something for the next month, set big or medium goals, then don't forget about something that brings joy, a feeling of satisfaction in our lives, that makes sense in the essence of our being. This is love. And it is not just about romantic relationships, but about love in all its forms and manifestations.

Understanding how important this is to absolutely every person comes from my personal life experience. For many years, I struggled to build the life I dreamed of.

Moreover, the circumstances did not contribute to this, on the contrary, I had to overcome endless difficulties and obstacles. Also, understanding the importance of love for happiness has been facilitated by the work of a psychologist.

Therefore, today I can say with complete confidence, without exaggerating at all, that the best way to find love is to look at the contact list of the people you communicate with every day.

Now let me tell you my story. I'm thirty years old. Behind them were the stormy years of youth, with nightclubs, dancing and fun until the morning, passing meetings and quick partings. Now I understand that there is only one thing behind all this - the unsuccessful search for love that my heart longed for.

And now, in the fourth decade, I suddenly realized that there was only one void inside. And it just eats me, burns me, destroys me. Because even though my days were full of so many different people and fun, I was fantastic on my own. As if you were alone in the whole universe.

Somewhere deep down I realized that all I needed was love. But I spent years looking for this love among people who were strangers to me. We just had fun and had a great time - and we immediately dispersed, not remembering each other.

But you can spend this time trying to build relationships with people I loved, who cared for me, who were close. And I made a choice that changed my life: I decided to spend more time with them. Enjoying every minute, every conversation. It was already a completely different life - full of love. Surrounded by those I love and who love me.

I worked as a psychologist for three decades. Thousands of conversations, thousands of life stories. But in all life scenarios, no matter how different they evolved, the overall picture was the same: all these people turned to me because they had no love. They tried unsuccessfully to find it, to invent it, to draw it, but they failed.

And we started working with them on this issue: how to bring more love into our lives. The first step is always the same. I call this the "attraction of inspiration": when you spend more time with friends and partners, with a sense of security, it becomes possible to be yourself, not to be afraid of your vulnerability or imperfection. And at the same time, you reduce the time that is full of the "attraction of alienation": when you spend time with those who should prove that you deserve something.

Thus, there is no need for a constant race for the opinions of others and their judgments. You are you and you deserve to be accepted as you are. It's so easy!

We spend more and more time with the right people in our lives, who are inspiring. It motivates us. Inspire. We begin to dream again, to dare, to set goals, and to conquer the peaks. And the real magic is happening - our world is changing. That's how it works.

How to determine the circle of people with whom you can activate this "attraction of inspiration"? From my personal experience and the experience of my clients, you just have to look at the contact lists of the last few years. Usually, these people are already there. We were too busy calling or meeting them. And maybe they were embarrassed to remember, secretly admiring.

You may not have noticed them or you may not consider it necessary to spend time building relationships. The reason we missed him is not so important. The main thing is that everything can be changed.

You can make that decision and start today. Find these people in your contact list and make a call first. Invite them to meet, talk, or take a walk. In time, you will begin to spend more and more time with them. And, I assure you, this is the best path to happiness I know.

To simplify the task of finding such people, I suggest you do the following exercise:

Open the contact list of friends, acquaintances, relatives. From the closest ones to the ones you haven't remembered for years.

• You did it?

• Now, ask yourself three simple questions:

• Which of them loves me?

• Who cares about me and where I am?

• Which of them sincerely wishes me happiness and success?

Answer honestly, without lying. Even if some answers will be a revelation for you.

The people you choose from a long list of contacts are the most valuable and important in your life. This is your dream team. This is your door to a country where love and understanding will reign.

You will soon find out that your heart becomes warm and happy when you think of this person. Moreover, each time the source of love deepens and expands more and more.

So love comes into our lives. In this way, we learn to observe and appreciate the right people. In this way, we gain those who love us as we are.