The Condition NOT to Trust

Am I the only one who feels like we are being conditioned not to trust each other? As the social divide between our actual physical connection and our mental connection is constantly being pulled by the various vices of social media, our trust in each other is rapidly fading at the same time. So when I speak of relationship building, think about when you as an individual actually gave someone a chance to prove themselves to you. Now I am not talking about totally trusting someone with your life or your bank account. Even though we get on planes every day and travel without a second thought. Remember the movie "Flight" starring Denzel Washington? I can related to many financial situations, but we all remember Enron and the overwhelming amount of greed that consumed many families. Yes, I know that we all live be the words of Ronald Regan, "Trust, but verify". I understand the concept of safeguarding your personal interest, but why are we so quick to place walls on relationships with intimate potential, and carelessly circulate and give common trust to some of the things we take for granted?

What is causing this great divide? There is no wrong or right in the answer. However, I challenge you to consider why it is so hard for you to extend the smallest amount of trust to an individual and allowing that person to prove themselves to you without the ray of skepticism. Yeah, I understand that no one wants to be hurt again, but what have you learned in mental therapy? Did you seek mental therapy and did you understand the power of letting go and releasing yourself from that event or person that has power over you? Most importantly, did you understand the process of making better decisions that aren't based on your emotions that will deter you from making the same mistake again?

Understand the distasteful undertone when people come across as distant, or unwelcoming. How does that make you feel when you are trying to connect or socialize? Yes, we live in a society of social acceptance because social media is at an all time high, and not going anywhere soon. Platforms are changing daily and are here to improve your experience, as long as your trust isn't violated. So paint this picture in your head. An individual can approach a person on social media and yet their guard is up to this individual, but they don't fully understand the terms and conditions or the privacy measures of a particular platform. Now this is a topic that can spin off to a series of discussions, but I just want to jolt your thought for a second. We are being way too distant to people who extend an invitation (for whatever reason) to us; and not using enough caution to those that are violating our personal privacy with terms and conditions who we may never meet or don't have a desire to meet us.

So in a narrow and selfish sense, let me tell you what really bugs me about making connections. The typical response of "Do I know you?" is the most dumbest response I could have ever heard in my life. Yeah, I said it! Let's dig deeper into who really doesn't know you. Well no, let's not do that. Understand the combination of past history and social influence that caused a person to respond to another individual extending an invitation to another person. Yet, social media has taught us to be cautious and at the same time provide them with all our information. It's OK to trust them, but please beware of that person who is making contact with you. Stop and make it make sense for a second people. Why is the divide so common, and the gesture to connect has presented the picture of "evil" these days?

Use caution, but don't loose your zeal to create organic connections with people.