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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
Jealousy in Polyamory
Growing up, I didn’t have a lot of friends. I remember being so possessive of the friends I did have that I would get upset if they hung out with anyone else. I’ve always been that jealous person. I thought it was just a normal character flaw a lot of people had, and that’s true; a lot of people do deal with jealousy and possessiveness, particularly in the polyamorous community. Recently though, I’ve come to realize that I’m not “just a jealous person,” but an insecure human being who can change.
By Abrin B Clearway8 years ago in Humans
Dating Cleanse
One of my biggest wake ups I had recently is that I noticed dating is no longer exciting to me. It’s become extremely difficult to develop feelings for anyone! I would go on a date, have some good laughs and drinks, say goodbye… or hookup… and then I would lose interest by the next morning. At first, I thought “maybe I just need to stick it out longer, and then my feelings will grow for them,” (like I did with my first long term relationship) but that didn’t work… Instead I grew more annoyed with each guy and didn’t care for them at all.
By Shanna Frasier8 years ago in Humans
Things That Men Don’t Understand About Women (And How They Think)
Ladies and gentlemen, it seems like we have a failure to communicate. We might speak the same language, but we definitely don't hear the same things when guys talk and when girls talk. Much of this reason is that guys don't think the same way that girls think, and girls don't think the same way guys think, either.
By Lizzie Boudoir8 years ago in Humans
Dealing with Abuse
It was midnight and he was once again drunk. We are talking one beer after another until a whole thirty pack was gone. Then it seemed like no time had passed before a half bottle of Jim Beam was magically gone. Everything inside of me instantly tensed because I knew what happened when this man drank. There was usually a fifty/fifty chance that things would go south, as in he would have a freak-out moment where he would black out. Usually, he would turn into someone unrecognizable and he would hurt me… mentally as well as physically.
By Alyssa Horn8 years ago in Humans
Signs He's Manipulating You (And You Need To Bail!)
I've seen a lot of relationships that started out nice, and then turned into a total mindfuck later on — both first and secondhand. Without fail, one of the key signs a relationship will turn into a draining, toxic, and potentially abusive disaster, has to be manipulation.
By Riley Raul Reese8 years ago in Humans
How You Can Survive a Long Distance Relationship
So you have found yourself in a relationship with your significant other further away than you would like. Whether it be the next city over, or half-way around the world, distance is never fun, especially when you are apart from the one you love. I already know you want to make it work, because you wouldn't have kept the relationship going if you didn't already love the person. But how can you keep on "dating" your lover when there is distance separating you.
By Jennea Barclay8 years ago in Humans
Why Do People Cheat?
So, my question for today is, 'why do people cheat?' If you have ever cheated on someone, physically or emotionally, then you may not want to read this because I will basically be tearing you a new one. Why do you cheat? You obviously did like this person, so what compelled you to one day wake up and say, 'wow, I am going to cheat on my significant other today." The logic within cheating is very confusing and very immature. I think the most humane way to find someone else is to break up with the person you are seeing and find someone; don't stay with the person because it will only make you look like a complete piece of trash and nobody will trust you once they find out. Simple. If you lose feelings for the person you are seeing, just end it. Don't carry it on because, like I said, people will get hurt and you're just leading them on. It's unnecessary pain that can easily be solved.
By Cristina S8 years ago in Humans
Signs He Isn't Into You
I was blessed with a nice body, and looked like I was sixteen when I was only twelve. I was quite proud of my body, and the older I got, the more fixated I was on it. I was whistled at, hooted at, stared at, and all of it only made me flaunt what I had more. After four failed marriages, and several live in relationships, I can honestly say that the best body isn't always the key to happiness. So many of the men I was with were with me because I had a nice body, and when the fascination wore off, so did their interest.
By Denise Willis8 years ago in Humans
Burning Bridges
Toxic People. They are everywhere and they can be anyone. Anyone at all. Sometimes they're friends, family, even a spouse or a boyfriend/girlfriend. They aren't easy to live with, in fact they can be outright impossible to live with or even be around, but we put up with them. Why? Why do we put up with people that absolutely suck the life out of us? When we meet new people and don't hit it off, we have no problem cutting them out and forgetting about them...so why is it so hard to get rid of people who make us miserable? We put up with friends who pressure us to do things we don't want, who make us feel bad if we say no to something or even the ones who are nowhere in sight when we need them, but god forbid we aren't there when they need us. We keep toxic parents in our lives and let them bully, guilt trip, degrade, and destroy us! It's the same story with spouses and boyfriends/girlfriends...we let them walk all over us and dictate our lives and then we sit there and wonder why we're miserable. We vent to our friends and family and then don't listen when they tell you to get out. These leeches...they take and they take and we sit there and let them. When does it finally click and become enough? When do we stand up for ourselves. I'll tell you when...It's when we realize that we have our faces in the dirt that these people have brought in. When we have that epiphany and wake up, that's when we stand up. We face these people head on and we call them out. In the end...we may end up looking like the asshole and that is OK. Just as long as we wake up to the people in our lives who don't deserve us, who treat us like shit and then play the victim. We can make it out of these relationships and survive. We can be happy and free of the guilt that the toxicity makes you feel. We just have to learn to say no more.
By Bethany Winters8 years ago in Humans
