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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
5 Signs You Are Dating a Narcissist
A narcissist is known as a person who is in love with themselves. I was married to a narcissist. Let me tell you, these people are no fun to deal with. He was the type that was a real charmer, but portrayed himself as a person who he believed himself to be, but was nothing but lies, lies, and more lies. How do you know you are dealing with one yourself? There are five major signs to look for.
By Billie Jo Coffman8 years ago in Humans
Grace
What I'm about to talk about is something that I've been learning lately; grace. When I say grace, I mean the unfair, forgiving when I'm not in the wrong, not wanting to have grudges, irrational, against human nature, forgive and forget kind of grace. For myself, I have a tendency to trust really fast, really easy, and that can open myself up to being hurt, or let down, or anything like that. It's cause of my trust that I've really been learning to be in a state of unfair grace, that if/when I get hurt, I forgive and move on. Holding onto things like grudges, anger, bitterness, to anyone or anything is like a genetic disease, it just keeps getting passed on to the next generation.
By Brady Young8 years ago in Humans
How Not To Be a Creepo
Let's face it, it's kind of jungle out there. Especially if you get your dating inspiration from Fifty Shades, Ariana Grande's videos, or those short videos where two people meet and within 15 minutes it's over... Of course, other public figures like Donald Trump don't help out as their flirting tips might land you in the middle sexual harassment lawsuit...
By Zlatka Larsen8 years ago in Humans
Picky, Guarded, and Stubborn
I never thought in a million years that I would be the friend that would be getting married. This time last year my then boyfriend of ten months decided he wanted me and only me for the rest of his life. Scary, but a good scary right? Our relationship always felt like we had been together in a past life, within two weeks of knowing one another, not even dating, Steven told me he was falling in love with me. That doesn't happen, only on a really juicy episode of The Bachelor. I remember feeling peace when he opened up and shared that with me. Here is a little side bar. I was up until a year before meeting Steven completely, and utterly terrified of commitment and wouldn't trust any guy that tried to date me. I had expectations that had been grounded in me since I was little, I grew up seeing my parents relationship and I wanted nothing but that. I built up expectations and I also had walls built around my heart, due to the slums that I did allow into my life that hurt me and walked all over me.
By Elizabeth Flemming8 years ago in Humans
#RelationshipGoals
There is no better feeling then to have the intention of conquering the new year with new love, new promises, and new friendships. Whether it's starting back at the gym, swearing off sodas, getting that job promotion, or leaving the past and bad juju vibes in the dust- we all intend to keep our promise to ourselves of "new year, new me". Sometimes, to prevail in such tasks, we as humans are required to do something scary- maybe even CRAZY; which of course is to accept and overcome change. Yet, every year, it seems like many people refrain from even combing the intentions of their "newly polished" but old and worn out bucket list because it requires a little more effort then they're comfortable putting forth; making "new year, new me" the ghost of Christmas past.
By Kennedy Brown8 years ago in Humans
How to Handle Your Long Distance Relationship
1. Don’t stress about your relationship. This is step number one because it is one of the most important. Stress is not ideal in any situation, and this one is no different. If you're overly-stressed about it, try to do stress relieving exercises—I recommend yoga.
By Melanie Adams8 years ago in Humans
Building Healthy Relationships (Pt 1)
Social media is overrun with memes about recognizing and avoiding toxic relationships. Many of these memes are posted by the immature or overly sensitive who are trying to get revenge or attention. However, the truth is, toxic relationships seem to be an epidemic. Simply put, some do not know how to love, communicate, and interact. Some are, indirectly, screaming for help. We all want healthy relationships.
By denise knight8 years ago in Humans
Abuse Is Not Alright!
You are playing on your laptop, socializing on FaceBook with your friends. You look at the clock on the wall.... Yep, you have a few minute still. But then you hear keys jingle in the door. He is home early! Frantically, you close the laptop and rush into the kitchen to get dinner started. Your heart is pounding because you worry if he is going to start screaming at you for not having dinner ready yet.
By Jacquelina Cain8 years ago in Humans
Not Everyone You Love is Going to Leave You
I’m used to being abandoned. I’m used to being disappointed, let down, led on, and pushed to the side afterwards. At first, I was naive to it. I didn’t think people were intentionally trying to hurt me, but after awhile it started to feel like a casual joke. It was something that I just simply expected without much explanation. Why would anyone stick around and be there for me? First, it was the two father figures in my life — biological and adoptive. Maybe “father figure” is a bit lenient and generous to call the guys who were too selfish or cowardly to be there for me when their daughter needed them the most. Others were people who drifted into my life, embracing this grand entrance, and I thought that they were significant. As time progressed and disappointments turned into something regular, I stopped caring. I gave the people who abandoned me too many chances each time they came around. It’s like I never learned, because no matter what, I continued to see the best in people and believed in multiple chances. I had my heart broken and my soul burned. I felt like an idiot or a fool and I wanted to erase all of the precious time spent with those who took me for granted and walked away like it was the easiest thing in the world. Little did they know I had a huge heart, and I had so much love to give. Little did I know — they didn’t deserve any of that love. They didn’t deserve all my stories, all of my accomplishments, or getting to know the amazing, resilient person I was becoming. I was only resilient because of them and all the stupid letdowns they threw at me.
By Julia Busshardt8 years ago in Humans
5 Last Minute Gift Ideas for Your Lady
You f***ed up this time. You've always been a procrastinator, haven't you? Well, you're not alone. I guess the Christmas spirit arrives a little late for the male gender... Because most men decide to go Christmas shopping at the last minute.
By Baylee Tyree8 years ago in Humans
