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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..

This Is What You Came For
This Is What You Came For 2/1/2018 We broke up in February 2016 in the most horrible way, just few days shy of Valentines day, AND shortly after i had given him $150 towards his light bill. You see, although he claimed to “love” me, I didn’t have my own place, an amazing job, or a car and I could tell he was growing tired of having to be a man and take care of himself by himself. He couldn’t use me. It didn’t matter that I was faithful, truly cared about him and his opinions, and that, when I wasn’t with him, I was thinking of him. None of that mattered. You see, he was a 35 year old drug dealer from the hood and I was a 22 year old dental receptionist from the suburbs. He was the beast that jumped at prey and opportunity and I was the naive, lonely, broken hearted girl looking for real love. For a while we existed together, bound tightly by passion, excitement, and the sheer thrill of a new thing. Happiness lived between us until the night I had the audacity to go out with my girls after he had caught “feelings” for me. At first it was “Ok. have fun, hmu later” text messages but an hour later I was getting abusive paragraphs filled with bitch, hoe, and dick sucking. I got my party on and woke up the next day shocked and pissed at first, then hurt and sad then flattered and relieved that he was so scared of losing me that he couldn’t control himself. So with me being naive, as I mentioned earlier, he apologized and I forgave. Sadly though, after that even with all the bending and compromising I tried to do for him, every time we had a disagreement I became that bitch and hoe again and I took it, 1) because I cared about him and 2) because I believe in making up and fixing things not just giving up. So come February–7 months in, I believe–he’s acting as if we’d been married 10 years and I’m that can’t-get-it-right housewife that needs to be verbally chastised everyday. I couldn’t understand why, every time I tried to do what he said, things just got worse.
By Tee Marie8 years ago in Humans
Breakups Suck
No amount of advice help to ease the pain of a breakup, cause let's face it breakups really, really suck. Having your significant other, the one who you saw and planned your future with. The one you spend all your time and effort on walking out of your life no matter if you decided to call it quit or you had it chosen for you, is a heartache.
By Bailee Schmidt8 years ago in Humans
The Single Reason Why Your Relationship Might Be Failing
Many people consider relationships as 'having found their other half'. We go from being whole to being half of something, a complete person only when we are with someone else. We allow our minds to be content with the fact that our lives are not truly our own, and that the ultimate definition of love is to forgo part of yourself with someone else by choice, believing that our lives are enhanced by the presence of something foreign to you. I am by no means an expert in the love department. I've had my fair share of boyfriends who have cheated on me, broken up with me, discovered their sexuality with me and even given the v-card by a boy I loved who trusted that I would know what to do. Even then, I am no love expert. What I do know is that while none of the men in my past have much in common with one another, there is still one deep, underlying fact that remains the same: our relationships eventually ended because we succumbed to self-abandonment in some way, shape or form.The honest definition of self-abandonment is to allow your true self to lie dormant in your relationship emotionally, physically, mentally, financially, spiritually and even socially, which opens the door for your partner to be responsible for you as a person.
By Delilah Jayde8 years ago in Humans
5 Thoughtful Places to Shop for Your Empath on Etsy. Top Story - February 2018.
Don't know what to get for someone this Valentine's Day? Or ever? It's true that it's the thought that counts but in this world, with flashing ads and Instagram's top products in our faces constantly, you may need a little help maneuvering through all the stereotypical crap and shallow gifts. After all, you want them to feel they're understood, right? Fear not, we got you covered. From chocolates and accessories to more practical gifts like journals and moisturizer, you'll be sure to bring a smile to your partner's face in no time.
By QuirkFrame Industries8 years ago in Humans
Respect Your Relationship
When you are in a relationship, you have to learn that if you want respect from your partner, you have to give it first. If they take your respect and throw it away, then it was something they were either not use to getting or didn't know how to handle you in the first place. Now I'm no relationship expert or anything like that so you don't have to take my advice. However, you can read my story and my life as it is now.
By Friday Vibes8 years ago in Humans
What to Do When Your Boyfriend Ignores You
There are very few things that a person can do which will be as hurtful as ignoring you—especially during an argument. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people out there who seem to think that the best way to stay in power is to ignore a person until they concede.
By Sasha Konikovo8 years ago in Humans
What Are You Giving Your Sweetheart for Valentine’s Day?
Don't stress over a Valentine's gift. Valentine's gift giving can be quite tricky especially since it follows Christmas. But let me make this task easy for you. I’ve lived thru many Valentine's Days, and I’ve found the answer. The first thing to do is, don’t stress. It is not the end of the world if you do not have the perfect idea or even receive the perfect gift from your sweetheart. Relax and release the pressure you might be feeling, that is, unless you are in the doghouse.
By Sima Ballinger8 years ago in Humans
Relationship Advice From My Uber Driver
I know this is going to come as a shock to many of you, but dating as a millennial is next to impossible. “There’s plenty of fish in the sea,” they say. Except what “they” don’t know is that the sea is actually full of fuck boys running from commitment, or good guys who have already found the one they are ready to settle down with. And if you happen to stumble upon a guy you think you might want to get to know, sooner or later you find out they are one or all of the following: too clingy, emotionally unavailable (and let me tell you, I’ve had my fair share, so I know the sea is full of them), too immature for a relationship right now, or he needs to find himself and is leaving to go travel for five months. So, after we eliminate all of those guys, what's left?
By Jennifer Proudfoot8 years ago in Humans
Managing a Long Distance Relationship
I used to be the girl who thought long-distance relationships were pointless, until it became my situation. I had been in one before during college, but it was much different than the one I am in now. I didn't understand why people wanted to do that to themselves. Why be in a relationship if you can't physically BE with the person? I had ended a relationship because we would be in completely different states. The reason I find myself in one now is because I finally met someone who is worth it and I know that it is only temporary. That is the key. Finding someone who is worth it and willing to stick it out with you.
By Christina Elizabeth8 years ago in Humans
How I Survived Heartbreak....
The man nearly destroyed me. I came home and he was gone! Just like that! He literally packed up his half of our life together, including my step children, and happily waltzed his way back to his ex wife after nearly 10 years with me......
By Rainbow Tent8 years ago in Humans
How To Be a Better Lover. Top Story - January 2018.
If there’s one thing that most men wish they knew, it’s how to be a better lover for their partners. For most men, it’s a matter of pride knowing that they can please their partners and make the girls they love get a little weak in the knees. It’s also the reason why the “neighborhood Lothario” tends to make so many men jealous; it almost feels like he may know something other guys don’t about the female libido.
By Ossiana Tepfenhart8 years ago in Humans
How to Judge Whether You Should Leave a Relationship
I know that feelings can truly blur a person's view of the world, distorting reality and judgement, making it very hard to know what the right decision is, and to also make that right decision. A big key in knowing whether a relationship is right is to take yourself OUTSIDE of those emotions. Try viewing the relationship from a third person's perspective. For example, imagine your sister or best friend is in your position - would you advise her to leave? If so, ask yourself why. If you would advise a friend/sister/brother/parent to leave the relationship, then question why you're still there. Of course, there's a lot more involved than that, and maybe in context, you can justify why the relationship isn't great, or why your other half is treating you not so well.
By Fiona Western8 years ago in Humans