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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
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Ever wonder why you it seems you are not getting traction on online dating apps? You've created a bio, posted some pics, and sit back and wait for your matches to come flocking in. I mean, you're a CATCH, right???? Maybe so... but perhaps you would never know it from your profile pictures! This is your first impression to your potential match and as the saying goes "You never get a second chance to make a first impression." As a member of the large pool of hopeless romantics out there looking for "the one" or "some fun," here are 5 reasons that quickly prompt me (and I'm sure so many others) to respectfully decline and move on to the next.
By Audrey Lynn7 years ago in Humans
It's Okay to Let a Toxic Person Go
I was a sophomore in high school, he was a dreamy senior. (A total cliché, I'm aware.) Without going into full detail, I met him on this app called 'Afterschool'—which basically is a place where people can make posts anonymously about who they like or throw insults at other people. The catch though is that once a name is put out there from a post, the app can generate fake posts using the above mentioned name, and post it. I won't be using real names to protect the identity of these people. So, we can call this guy Kevin. Well, Kevin's name popped up quite a few times about how 'Kevin is so hot' and nonetheless, I was curious. After requesting him as a friend on Facebook, we started to talk. This led to me coming to his house whenever I could. He would give me rides to school, and even invite me to dinner at his house. He was always interested in doing sexual things, but I felt I wasn't ready for that. When he would text me, he would call me 'beautiful' and so on. Though he would always take a long time to text back, and his excuses always came up short, and often. After submitting my complete trust to him, I found out from another girl that goes to my school, that Kevin had been talking to me, her, and two other girls at the same time. And when I mean talking, I really mean taking them places as well, calling them beautiful, and basically the whole, "I'm in a relationship with you but not really because I won't call you my girlfriend, but I will do couple stuff with you."
By Tiffany Joy7 years ago in Humans
The Disability Bullies
Back in high school, I was a hot mess from not having medication to help me at all. My family consistently denied me medication all four years of high school. I wish I’d had some so that my moods would have been less painful for non-magickal people to tolerate. My moods were everywhere, I was out of control, and I feel deeply embarrassed that my family just ignored my pleas for medication. I should have gotten myself on SSI but getting from one day to the next was pretty painful for me.
By Iria Vasquez-Paez7 years ago in Humans
The Barber's Daughter
Nothing pains me more than seeing someone in an abusive relationship. Physical or otherwise. But the absolute worst is seeing someone otherwise innocent sell themselves short and date somebody of no character at all. (Mostly, because you can’t call the cops on an a**hole, just for being an a**hole).
By Donovan Powell7 years ago in Humans
Guess What: It Doesn't Pay to Be a Dick
Sometimes, when I hear about other people’s relationships, I cringe. I haven’t been in that many relationships, but I’ve always had a sense of how you should a treat one. I’ve heard so many people talk about their relationships and think, “That… can’t be healthy… can it?” Even when I was little, I would hear people bashing their significant others and be confused. “If you don’t even like them… then why are you together?” In today’s world, society makes it okay, even encouraged, to drag your partner through the mud.
By Rowan Flores7 years ago in Humans
Swipe Right for a Fresh Look
How many times have you found yourself sitting in an office, waiting to be seen by the doctor, or simply at home waiting for your show to come back on, and find yourself swiping through possible contenders for your Saturday night plans?
By Fredrick Morgan7 years ago in Humans
Friendship
We have all been to the place of having to take a step back and analyze the state of our relationships, whether you are the one changing or they are. Like most of our relationships, friendships hold a special role in our lives. For a lot of us, we have developed these friendships earlier on in life and have become attached to the presence that they bring into our lives. We gave ourselves permission to open up, sometimes in the most vulnerable of ways, in order to connect and bond with these individuals. We give them a personalized piece of our space to occupy and invest our time, secrets, and energy into them. They cry with us, love with us, and support us in times of need and we hold on to the possibility that they will be there to do the same for us. Inevitably there will be some trials and tests along the way that can really tell us the true state of our relationship. We need to be able to identify them when it has come time to start questioning and letting go of what is no longer serving us. Here are some indications that it may be time to loosen your grip on your friendships.
By Jessica King Mhoon7 years ago in Humans
Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn from a Long Distance Relationship
Long distance relationships are not for everyone. However, most people don’t end up in long distance relationships by choice. Whatever the circumstances may be—whether your family moves, you leave for school, or a job takes you away from your significant other—there are many lessons you can learn from a long distance relationship that will be beneficial to you for the rest of your life. Long distance relationships teach you to appreciate the time together that most others get every day and may not value so much. This distance puts things in perspective and makes you evaluate who you are as an individual. While the lessons you learn from long distance relationships may not be easy, they are invaluable to your character. Here are some things a long distance relationship teaches.
By Morgan E. Westling7 years ago in Humans
