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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
If You're Thinking About Snooping Through Your Bae's Phone
Snooping through your significant other's phone is just another one of those encounters that reveals more to you about yourself than about the other person. When you feel the need to snoop through your significant other's phone, it's telling you that your relationship is revealing an insecurity of yours. For most people, the insecurity is fear: fear of being left alone, fear of lack of control, fear of inadequacy. The funny thing about fear is that the only person who can best address it is the person feeling it.
By Alexis Wyatt7 years ago in Humans
Trust Is a Fragile Thing
Trust is a fragile thing. There's no denying that. Think of a mirror carelessly dropped, depending on the frame to protect the glass. The owner thought they could defeat the inevitable until they flipped it over to reveal the spiderweb effect. They blow away the scattered shards. Still able to see their reflection, they ignore the damage, at least for now.
By Ambi Ambition7 years ago in Humans
"It's Just a Phase"
We like to believe we know what's best for those we love. Whether it's a child, loved one, or friend, we want to ensure that they live their best life. We believe that we understand people on some innate level; how they feel, what they think, and what they have experienced. This is especially true of our kids. But, it's impossible to understand another human being completely. After all, that is what makes us human; we are ever changing and our perceptions change every second that we are alive. This change is a gradual process. It starts with that feeling that sits deep within your chest, that poking in the back of your mind. That is what tells you, while you might not know what the change is, that you are changing and growing into the person you are meant to be.
By Simcha Glassman7 years ago in Humans
5 Ways to Add an Extra Spark in Your Relationship
A happy, married life is what anyone of us would want. But, with time, it becomes difficult to keep the spark in the relationship alive. The romance that used to be there disappears, and you can't remember the last time you had a moment with your partner. There are many ways to keep the spark alive in relationships with your partner, and we will discuss some of them in this article.
By Mia Morales7 years ago in Humans
Stop... In the Name of Love!
More and more I have come to the realization that a lot of us need to seek help. And I'm in no way saying folks are just crazy and need to be admitted. A lot of us need to admit that our insecurities, past hurts, bitterness, and resentments cause unhealthy relationships going forward. Too stubborn to acknowledge why James' infidelity was due to how you treated him as a man. Too hurt over Cheryl stepping out on you. Yes, he/she was wrong for cheating on you, but you chased him/her into the arms of someone who wanted a good man/woman. Your insecurities, badgering, and nagging, endless social media posts instructing someone how you should be loved, just didn't keep him/her wanting to hurry home to you. If they've got one good friend who brags about their fantastic relationship and how things go well between them, then eventually their hearts will swell for that kind of love.
By Mina Valentine7 years ago in Humans
When Setting Boundaries Makes Others Angry
When Saying “No” Makes Others Upset Setting boundaries is undoubtedly the key to developing and maintaining a respectful, healthy relationship. Typically, we have some basic boundaries that are understood upon entering a relationship that will be extremely clear-cut. Saying “no” and having a right to be respected should be a given, and you are the ultimate judge of continued interaction with someone when they violate clear boundaries or blatantly disrespect you. However, many times boundaries are set as needed, being established and enforced when situations arise that cause discomfort, prompting us to make changes. While these enforcements are necessary, they are often not easy and present their own unique set of challenges.
By Samantha Clarke7 years ago in Humans
Journey in Love
I've always wondered why people call it 'falling in love'. I never wanted to call it falling, because it would imply that I was never prepared for it. I wanted to refer to it as walking into love. In order to imply that getting into a relationship, love should be the end result, therefore it becomes something you walk into because it is expected. But love is patience and seeks peace, love is kind and thoughtful, it is not jealous or envious. It is not rude or self-seeking, it bears all things and believes and hopes for good in all things. Love endures, love never fades or ends. That is real love, which explains the falling when we are in love, because love is out of control. Love is unpredictable, and has no safety net, because we never know what will happen.
By theboxexchange 7 years ago in Humans
Get What You Get, But It's Okay to Pitch a Fit
I am apart of the select few humans that believes that no one is born inherently good nor bad. I believe in the situation at hand. I firmly believe in change. I mean, is it really possible to be born with a “bad bone” in your body? All cliches aside, it’s a serious inquiry that people should probably put in perspective. I think these are all traits that we begin to acquire in the circumstances that we find ourselves immersed in. For instance, if you were born into a family that isn’t particularly well accustomed to the social justice system, well, hate to break it to you, but you might not be either. By all means, please try and attempt to break the normality that your family has enforced upon you. Honestly, we would all rather that occur than having you simply fitting into the given mold. This goes for other instances as well. If you are surrounding yourself with people who are the epitome of tree huggers, and you're just not vibing, I don’t know, find people that would still hang with you if you forgot to recycle the paper plate.
By Miyah Henderson7 years ago in Humans
