Sucker punched by my wife’s Affair partner

The Night That Changed Everything

Seven months ago, a 58-year-old man went out with his wife, her brother, and friends after a concert. As the designated driver, he was sober while the rest of the group drank. At one point, he noticed his wife missing. When he went to find her, he discovered her with another man. The stranger had his hand on her hip while she rested hers on his shoulder, an intimate pose that set off alarm bells.

When he asked who the man was, the stranger told him it was none of his business. The wife tried to pull her husband away, but before he could process what was happening, the man punched him hard in the head. The impact left him dazed. The attacker tackled him into a wall and hit him again before his brother-in-law intervened. The husband ended up in the hospital with a suspected concussion while the attacker was arrested.

A Painful Truth Comes Out

At first, the wife brushed off the incident as a misunderstanding with a co-worker who had “got handsy.” But the brother-in-law eventually told the husband what he heard during the assault. The attacker had boasted loudly that he had been sleeping with the wife for months.

The husband checked his wife’s phone and quickly confirmed the truth. There were pictures, videos, and texts that proved the affair. Even worse, her best friend had been helping her hide it and encouraging the relationship.

Months of Pretending

For half a year, the husband pretended to maintain the marriage while secretly preparing to leave. He gathered evidence, secured a rental home through family, and consulted a lawyer. All the while, he endured the pain of living with a wife who continued the affair. In one text, the affair partner bragged about how fast he had “taken him down” in the fight. The wife replied with a smiling emoji.

The couple continued to have sex, though the husband admitted it was mechanical and without affection. He described it as a way to keep up appearances until he was ready to act.

Preparing the Exit

Eventually, he was ready. He had divorce papers drawn up and an envelope full of evidence. He also planned to send everything to the affair partner’s wife and notify others who had been involved in hiding the relationship.

His dilemma was whether to confront his wife face-to-face or simply “ghost” her by leaving quietly and exposing the truth afterward. He leaned toward ghosting, aware of the risks of confrontation, but admitted he longed to see her shocked face when confronted with the evidence.

The Road Ahead

The affair partner was convicted of simple assault, sentenced to community service, and fined. The wife continued her affair almost openly, convinced her husband suspected nothing. Meanwhile, the husband prepared to leave the marriage after 35 years together and three grown children.

In his final updates, he confirmed his legal plans, his STD test results, and his intent to quietly walk away once everything was in place.

Update 2: A New Twist

After one final check of his wife’s phone, the husband discovered that the affair had apparently ended. The messages showed that she broke it off just days after his last search. She told her best friend that the violent bar incident had “snapped her back to reality” and that she had been trying to end the relationship ever since. Still, it took her nearly five months to cut ties completely.

She even explained her infamous smiley-face reply to the affair partner’s brag about knocking out her husband. According to her, she was too scared to push back in that moment because she did not know what he was capable of .

“REALLY lady you know what he’s capable of”

The best friend continued to play a toxic role. Twice in the past month, the wife almost confessed to her husband, but the best friend talked her out of it. The husband recalled one of these moments clearly:

his wife came home for lunch unexpectedly, looking like she had been crying. He now knows she almost came clean that day but was persuaded not to.

In a surprising revelation, the best friend exposed her own past infidelity while trying to comfort the wife. She admitted to sleeping with her neighbor, who happened to be a local high school math teacher. This admission gave the husband enough clues to identify the affair partner as well. Yet another family was drawn into the fallout of betrayal.

Despite this new information, nothing changed in the husband’s plan. He remained committed to ghosting his wife rather than confronting her directly. He hinted at a “one-two punch” strategy that would unfold quickly once he made his move, followed by a third step to tie up loose ends.

He thanked Reddit for the overwhelming support and reiterated that he already had legal counsel. Divorce laws in his state made the process relatively simple, and he trusted his lawyer’s advice over anything he read online. For now, he was waiting for the right moment to execute his plan.

The Exit

Yesterday, the husband finally carried out the plan he had been preparing for months. When his wife left for a shopping trip with her best friend and two others, he set everything in motion. Movers arrived a little late, but it worked in his favor. Most of his belongings were already packed, so the team focused on large items like his office desk, chair, and bookcases. Within two hours, the major pieces were gone, and his workshop items were in storage.

Before leaving, he made one symbolic gesture. In the morning, he cut his wedding band in two with a hacksaw. He placed the halves on top of the divorce papers and a packet of evidence from her affair. He excluded anything that might expose her best friend’s involvement, leaving only the proof that tied her directly to the betrayal. Then he closed the door and walked away.

Update 3: Telling the Children

Meeting with his three children was the hardest part. Two joined him in person while the youngest connected via FaceTime. There were tears, anger, and difficult questions about whether the marriage could be saved.

He explained who the affair partner was and warned them to stay cautious, though he did not believe the man would cause them harm. He withheld his new address, asking them to go through their aunt if they needed him, so they would not be pressured to lie to their mother.

Family and Relief

He updated his wife’s brother, who has always been more like a sibling to him, and the man offered support. He also called his sister, who had helped arrange his new place. Then he shut his phone off for the night.

Exhaustion overtook him, but so did relief. For the first time in months, he slept deeply without the weight of secrets or daily pretense.

Aftermath

When he briefly powered on his phone, dozens of missed calls and messages were waiting. The previews showed apologies and pleas from his wife, but he chose not to read them. He made it clear that his focus now is on moving forward and notifying others who need to know.

“I am not finished,” he wrote. “There are others to notify. So I’ll update then.”

Update 4: Informing the Other Betrayed Spouse

The husband took the next major step in his plan. On Monday, he went into his office briefly and arranged for a professional messenger service. He prepared a packet of evidence and a letter, then had it delivered directly to the affair partner’s wife at her workplace. She signed for it, ensuring the truth could no longer be hidden.

Afterward, he sent a short text to his soon-to-be ex-wife:

Him: “I have notified OBS and gave her the same evidence I left you.”

There was a pause of several minutes before she replied.

Wife: “I am sorry you felt the need to do that but I understand.”

When he did not respond, she followed up:

Wife: “Does this mean we can talk?”

He shut his phone off without replying.

In his letter to the other betrayed spouse, he briefly described the contents of the evidence packet and provided a new Gmail address in case she wished to reach out. She did the next day, sending only a brief thank you and leaving the door open for future contact if she decided to talk further.

Staying the Course

The husband explained that he informed his wife about contacting the other betrayed spouse for safety reasons. He did not want his children caught in the middle or forced to deliver the news themselves.

He has not read any of the texts, voicemails, or emails piling up from his wife. They remain unopened waiting for a day when he may decide to revisit them, though for now he prefers to leave them alone.

The next step is to notify his wife’s best friend’s husband, who also deserves to know the truth about her role in the affair. After that he believes the rest will unfold on its own.

He closed the update by thanking those who have followed his journey, offering encouragement, and sending private messages.

Source:

https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/1ngh3hv/seven_months_ago_i_was_sucker_punched_by_my_wifes/

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