Steps to Heal a Broken Heart

Heartbreak hurts like nothing else. It’s an emotional pain that can feel so intense, it’s almost physical. When you’re going through this, all you want is for that ache to disappear. All you want is to be alone and sulk in misery. Grab your favorite comfort food and binge out on netflix. I wish I could say there’s a quick fix, but there really isn’t. It might sound cliché, but time is what you need to truly heal from such deep pain. Eventually, this hurt will fade. In the meantime, here are a few simple tips that might help you feel a bit better so you can start to cope with the hurt.

1. Cry: You’re probably going to feel pretty awful for the first few weeks. If you’re someone who feels deeply, you might find yourself crying for days. That’s totally okay. A big change has happened in your life, and it’s painful. You can’t just flip a switch and stop feeling sad; it doesn’t work that way. Let yourself grieve your loss, but don’t dwell on it for too long! Staying stuck in the past can only make things worse. Crying really does help to get the feelings on out. Remember rule number 4.

2. Talk to Someone Close: Lean on someone who cares about you and share your feelings. This can help lighten your emotional load. Let them listen, comfort you, and offer some advice. You don’t have to take their advice, but just talking it out can be comforting. Just make sure you don’t linger in this phase for too long because you need to keep moving forward. The more you sit a dwell on the shoulda, woulda, coulda the worse you will feel. And getting a different perspective on your situation and life is what you'll need.

3. Distract Yourself: Reconnect with friends you care about. Maybe being in a relationship kept you from spending time with family or your best friend. Surround yourself with your support system. Getting things done around the house can also help you focus on something else. Hit the gym, organize your closet, or take a nice walk. Keeping yourself busy is a great way to start moving on, which leads us to rule number 4.

4. Look toward the Future; Forget the Past: Once you’ve allowed yourself to grieve what’s gone, it’s time to look ahead! You need to start a new chapter in your life. Create a hobby or business, travel if you have the resources to do that. Now that you’ve dealt with the sadness and anger, it’s time to embrace hope and renewal to help you move on. Take some time for yourself; get to know who you are as an individual again. Rebuild your spirit by rediscovering yourself.

By following these sometimes tough but necessary steps, you can begin to mend your broken heart. You won’t just become whole again; you’ll have the chance to become whoever you want to be. This is your opportunity to start fresh, and as the pain eases, you’ll see it as a chance for something new. And starting something new is always good. It gives you a sense of purpose and belonging. And who knows, it just might bring you something or someone very special.

So, start your journey of healing by using these four steps and surrounding yourself with positive and true people who bring out the best in you. And when you find them, you'll be in a new place of peace...and THAT will feel so good. So what are you waiting for? I'm rooting for you to win and most of all LIVE!