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Spiritual Ego vs. Psychological Ego:

Killing the Ego, Surrendering Will, and Embracing Faith through Humility

By Julie O'Hara - Author, Poet and Spiritual WarriorPublished 4 months ago 6 min read
photo by Mohammed Nahassi

The concept of the ego is central to both psychology and spirituality, yet the way it manifests and is understood in these two fields differs significantly. The psychological ego, often linked to the self or personal identity, encompasses our thoughts, beliefs, and perceptions of ourselves. In contrast, the spiritual ego, while oftentimes intertwined with religious or spiritual beliefs, can evolve to represent an inflated sense of self-importance derived from spiritual achievements or insights. This essay delves into the distinctions between spiritual and psychological ego, the imperative to "kill the ego," the significance of surrendering personal will, and the crucial role of humility and faith in achieving a more profound connection with both self and the divine.

Understanding the Psychological Ego

The psychological ego, primarily explored in the realm of psychology, represents the conscious mind's construct of identity. It serves as a mediator between an individual and their external environment, balancing personal desires with societal expectations. Sigmund Freud famously theorized about the ego, outlining it as the rational component of the mind that helps navigate reality and negotiate the demands of the id (the primal instincts) and the superego (the moral conscience).

In modern psychology, the ego is often associated with self-esteem, self-identity, and the notion of self-preservation. While it is necessary for personal functioning and survival, an overemphasis on the ego can lead to narcissism, entitlement, and disconnectedness from others. For example, individuals may find their identities deeply intertwined with societal validation, material success, or personal achievements, leading to heightened sensitivity to external judgments or threats to their self-image.

Exploring the Spiritual Ego

The spiritual ego can be understood as an extension of the psychological ego when an individual begins to associate their identity with their spiritual experiences or insights. It often manifests as a sense of superiority derived from spiritual accomplishments or a perceived closeness to an esteemed higher power. In this context, spirituality can become a new arena for the ego to thrive, causing individuals to become spiritually competitive or judgmental of those who do not share their insights or experiences.

One common example of spiritual ego is the idea of enlightenment or awakening. When individuals achieve a certain level of spiritual awareness, there is a tendency to view themselves as "better" or "more evolved" than others. This can lead not only to a lack of compassion for those still "lost" in their struggles but can also create a barrier to genuine connection with others. The spiritual ego, therefore, serves as a barricade, severing authentic relationships and deepening isolation despite the purported connections that spirituality may promise.

The Imperative to Kill the Ego

In both psychological and spiritual frameworks, the concept of “killing the ego” emerges as a transformative necessity. Killing the ego doesn’t imply annihilating one’s sense of self but rather involves transcending an overinflated or misguided sense of identity. Spiritual traditions, from Buddhism to Christianity, emphasize the importance of relinquishing attachment to the ego as a pathway to genuine liberation.

In Buddhism, for instance, the concept of "anatta" (no-self) asserts that clinging to a fixed self leads to suffering. The ultimate goal is to realize the impermanence of the self, letting go of attachments and desires that fuel the ego's dominance. Through meditation and mindfulness practices, individuals learn to witness their thoughts without identification, allowing for a profound shift in perspective.

Similarly, in Christianity, the notion of surrendering one's will to God involves relinquishing the ego's dictates. The New Testament advocates for humility and self-denial, with Jesus teaching his followers to "take up their cross" (Matthew 16:24) as a metaphor for relinquishing personal desires for divine purpose. By killing the ego, believers cultivate a heart open to divine love and grace, fostering a genuine relationship with God and others.

Surrendering Will and Embracing Faith

The journey towards living free from the grip of the ego necessitates surrender—a willingness to let go of personal desires, ambitions, and illusions of control. Surrendering the will is not an act of defeat; rather, it is an act of profound strength and trust. Individuals committed to spiritual growth often face the dilemma of living in faith versus clinging to their desires for security and control.

Friedrich Nietzsche famously proclaimed, "He who has a why to live can bear almost any how." For those embracing spirituality, the "why" transcends the ego’s desires. In surrendering will, individuals open themselves to divine guidance and the flow of life’s inherent wisdom. This surrender demands a trust that often feels counterintuitive to the ego's narrative, yet it is the key to liberation.

Through surrender, individuals cultivate faith—faith in a higher power, faith in the process of life, and faith in their interconnectedness with all beings. This faith necessitates humility; acknowledging the limits of personal understanding allows for a more profound connection with the universe and a greater acceptance of the mystery of existence.

The Role of Humility

Humility serves as the antidote to the inflated sense of self perpetuated by both psychological and spiritual ego. In recognizing one’s limitations, individuals can foster an attitude of openness, receptivity, and gratitude. In spiritual contexts, humility invites individuals to acknowledge that there is always more to learn and experience, and to recognize the interconnectedness of all beings.

The historical perspectives of various spiritual traditions offer profound insights into humility. In ancient Greek philosophy, Socrates famously claimed, “I know that I know nothing.” This admission signifies the importance of humility in the pursuit of wisdom. Similarly, the Buddhist practice of “beginner’s mind” encourages individuals to approach life with openness, free from preconceived notions and judgments.

In Christianity, Jesus epitomizes humility through his life and teachings. He washed the feet of his disciples, embracing the role of a servant rather than adhering to societal expectations of power and influence. This powerful demonstration emphasizes that humility and servitude are essential to spiritual growth, helping individuals dismantle their ego in favor of higher truths.

Historical Perspectives on Ego and Spirituality

The interplay between spiritual and psychological concepts of ego has been explored throughout history. Ancient philosophies like Stoicism promoted the idea of temperance and self-control, urging individuals to transcend their base desires and cultivate virtue. These concepts laid the groundwork for modern psychology and continue influencing contemporary discussions about ego.

The Eastern traditions of Hinduism and Buddhism introduced the concept of transcending ego through practices such as meditation and mindfulness. These traditions recognize the significance of understanding the self’s impermanence and encourage individuals to pursue enlightenment through conscious awareness and ethical living.

In the West, thinkers like Carl Jung have explored the multifaceted nature of the ego. Jung emphasized the need to integrate the shadow self—the suppressed aspects of the psyche—into consciousness. In doing so, individuals can achieve a more expansive understanding of self, ultimately aligning with spiritual truths that transcend the ego's limitations.

Conclusion: The Journey of Transformation

As we navigate the complex relationship between the spiritual and psychological ego, the call to kill the ego, surrender the will, and embrace faith through humility emerges as a profound pathway to spiritual evolution. This journey demands courage, as it beckons individuals to confront their deepest fears, vulnerabilities, and attachments.

By willingly relinquishing the ego’s grip, we open ourselves to genuine connection, compassion, and transformation. The surrender of will to a higher purpose invites the flow of grace into our lives, fostering a profound sense of trust and faith that transcends individual understanding.

In embracing humility, we recognize the cyclical nature of existence and our interconnectedness with all beings. Just as the tides ebb and flow, our spiritual journeys reflect a tapestry of experiences, each thread contributing to the greater whole.

As individuals committed to this journey, we are called to become vessels of love and compassion. By integrating the lessons derived from killing the ego, surrendering the will, and embracing faith through humility, we can authentically engage with ourselves, others, and the divine, fostering a world anchored in understanding and connectedness. In doing so, we unlock the true essence of our being—to love and be loved in return, free from the constraints of the ego.

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