Sleeping With An Ex You Still Love (How To Ask Your Ex To Sleep With You)

Why jeopardize your situation when you want to get your ex back? Sadly, most people end up doing these outrageous blunders regardless, and they COMPLETELY kill your chances of getting your ex back!

Whatever you do, DO NOT make these mistakes:

Saying you have changed -

This will literally give anyone DOUBTS when you say it, but don't DO it. Your ex will automatically assume by DEFAULT that you have not changed and that you are LYING to their face.

This will in turn tell your ex that you literally think they are a fool or are a sucker, because your ex will think you are trying to "SAY" what they want to hear to get them back, rather than doing what they asked.

This is a HUGE mistake and only psychologically reminds your ex of everything you have done wrong in the past, because you are once again reminding them of the things you did wrong, by saying you have changed.

Instead of reminding your ex of the past like this, move on and improve yourself so that your ex will SEE the future they can have with you, rather than the terrible past.

Joking around with your ex...too soon... -

Most people don't even realize they do this, but your ex may be telling you about something in their life, or something you did in the past, and you start giggling or laughing.

You may find it funny that they simply feel that way, and it may be a HONEST misunderstanding, but if you laugh about something serious related to their feelings after a break up, then you are inadvertently telling them that you don't care.

While you may wish to be able to joke around with your ex again, you must AVOID this, because your ex will think you are really laughing at their pain. This also includes laughing at anything your ex has done since the break up.

The most outrageous mistake... using SEX

Whether you are a male or a female, this is a HUGE mistake that so many people make when trying to get their ex back, and it completely jeopardizes everything.

If you have tried to get your ex back by having sex with them, or by trying to seduce them in this way, you will only tell them that you WANT to be used and will prove to them that you are easy.

It also insults your ex, if you are asking for it, because it makes them feel as though you only want to use them. Even if your ex HAS had sex with you since the break up, you jeopardize everything because you are literally FORCING your ex to put you into the friends zone.

You prove to your ex that they can literally "HAVE" you, even without committing to you or being in a REAL relationship with you.

How to Get Back With Your Ex - The First Four Steps

A breakup can be as powerful a shock as a bereavement. And you can go through all the same emotional phases: shock, anger, pleading, negotiating - begging for one more chance. I'm sorry, but it's a stage you have to go through if your love meant anything at all to you.

This is the dangerous stage, when vulnerable. This is the time you can make the mistakes which mark you our as a needy loser and blow ANY chance of getting back with an ex.

If you feel the urge to:

-send begging texts and emails

-turning up wherever they might be

-belittling your ex in front of your mutual friends,

STOP. Tell yourself that it's not the real you doing these things, it's the shock and grief. Your ex isn't going to see the shock and grief, however, they're just going to

* see a needy wreck

* be flattered by the attention without investing emotionally.

In short, acting like this is only going to hurt YOU. It's not, I'm afraid, going to win back love.

Step One is recognising that you're in a state of emotional flux, that it's natural and that you should take a deep breath before having ANY contact with your ex.

Step two isn't so easy, I'm afraid. You need to accept that the break up is real. Your ex is not going to change their mind and take you back. Not right now, anyway. So you've got to take care of yourself, which means not sitting around the apartment for days on end in the same sweat pants watching a complete box set of the West Wing. It's taking care of your appearance, going to work, keeping up with friends - even renewing friendships which drifted during the relationship. It's about pursuing hobbies and generally doing what made you feel good before your relationship. Step two is about being able to live a full life without your partner. Before you know it you're at

Step 3. During this stage you might not have noticed that you're not the same person who your ex dumped, but more the fun, dynamic, happy, fulfilled person your ex fell in love with in the first place. While you're concentrating on you, you might not have noticed that you're not dwelling so much on your ex.

All of a sudden your ex is missing the attention. They might call you up on some pretext "for advice". They might want to meet for coffee, Sometimes they even want sex. Meaningless, commitment free sex. It's tempting, flattering, and CLOSE to what you had before...

But it's NOT the right thing to do.

If this relationship meant anything to you, you cannot be their buddy, their shoulder to cry on, or one night stand. Because if you offer those things, that's all you will ever be to your ex.

Step Four is cultivating your rarity value. You're already an exciting person to be around, with friends and a great social life. Do you remember that "best friend" you were secretly in love with, but who never noticed you in that way? Remember how much it hurt just being near that person? If you make yourself too available now you're just setting yourself up for a lifetime of hurting again.

Play it cool. Don't be aloof, just don't pick up every time your ex calls. Be friendly, but not a friend.

There no guarantees in life, and this is but one strategy. But is one which has worked.

These are the first steps in a proven strategy to get your ex back? It doesn't stop here, though. What you do next is crucial to get your ex back. Don't throw away your chances by not knowing what to do next. To read the shocking revelation that holds the final key to get your ex back visit: Ex Back Guide

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