She's waiting for Marriage, He said let's go Dutch!

The days of men traditionally paying for dinner and entertainment is slipping out of the window. Did the new age modern women put him on this slope? I don't even know if I can do this justice in a short read, so a part 2 might have to follow. This is a very touchy subject in the dating world, but what's the big deal? Are we not all independent enough to pay for our own meals these days? What happen to the man stepping up and showing that he can provide?

No matter the level of commitment in a relationship, most men want to see a return on their investment. I cannot say that I sit on the fence when dealing with this subject, but I will say that there is an expectation of something when a woman utter those words. With full respect to the woman wanting to save herself for marriage is a wonderful thing to hear. Most respectful men find it hard to believe with the dating playing field today. From the man's point of view (not that I don't understand the woman), no one wants to be the fool. Like I stated in "The Reason why Men don't go on Dinner Dates Anymore" men are holding back on dates just to make sure they have a quality potential mate. Again, no man feels good after respecting these wishes, and then later to find out that same woman is not waiting with another man. This has happened before and every woman who dresses up on Sunday morning, is not teaching class. So where does the line of compromise fall with this hot situation and how will both sides maintain respect for each other?

Women, is there a problem with paying for your meal if you are interested in the guy? What are you going to provide to display your area interest in a man after uttering that you want to wait for marriage? Times have certainly change and your desire for a traditional man can no longer line up with your modern day thinking. Should you trade sex for dinner? No, that is not what I'm suggesting during this moment of confusion. However, there has to be something that will put the man at ease and comfort his thoughts that you are not just there for a free meal. Me personally, I will pay for the meal, but there are some observations that are well in place before the 1st dinner and following.

Men are changing with the times as well. You have the right to express freedom of your body, and no one should dictate that in any form. There are countless ways (if he is paying attention) that a man can tell if you are into him or not. In as much the same way people give off signs if they are totally involved or dealing with someone else. This is why I stress the "90-event Challenge" in, "Love Matters Session Number 2", which is a perfect failsafe to see if someone has a interest to commit to you or not. If she is around after the 4th event and not entertaining anyone else, there might be a chance. I haven't met one to complete the challenge, and I'm still looking. So when I hear women say they are saving themselves for marriage, good for them! At this point, I'm wondering what other ways can she invest in me, like I will invest in her. Money doesn't have to be a part of the equation. If it is, then what's the problem if you are both interested in each other? This is why some men suggest going Dutch on dates when women tell them they want to wait for marriage.

I see the picture loud and clear, ladies! You want a man to provide, love and protect. Men don't want to be used, nor do the real ones want to exploit your bodies. We all have a freedom of choice in every matter we face. That is one of the most liberating feelings in this country. God Bless America! There is no wrong or right in this situation. Please be mindful when statements of social boundaries are made (and hopefully respected), think about what ways are you willing to show a man (non sexual) that you are interested in him.

Love is a two way street and the "rules" are constantly changing as we live our daily lives. Be fair, be reasonable and use logic in everything! Men are tapping into their emotions more so than ever. With most men, if women show them that they are willing to walk half way, they will pick her up and carry her for as long as he can. Love free, love even and don't cheat the process, the heart is depending on us.