(Self-)Acceptance And Constructive (Self-)Talk

You can´t be hurt by what you accept

What if you didn’t have to hide anything about yourself?

What if you could be completely open — no secrets, no shame — and still feel safe?

Here’s the truth: You can.

If you imagine yourself as already whole, already enough, already safe — then even your darkest thoughts and fears lose their grip. You don’t have to deny them. You look at them, hold them gently, and decide:

“Yes, this too is part of me. And I can shape it into something good.”

As long as your intentions are honest and kind, nothing can truly harm your inner self. The soul is untouched by outer drama — even if your body hurts, even if your heart breaks.

Of course, there are real horrors in the world — things no one should experience. But believing that pain doesn’t have to define us forever can be a quiet form of strength. We can still strive to prevent suffering without pretending it doesn't exist.

Your Inner Team: A New Way to Navigate Conflict

Did you know you have an “inner team” guiding your decisions?

This idea, introduced by psychologist Friedemann Schulz von Thun, is used in systemic coaching and therapy. It doesn't mean you’re unstable—quite the opposite. Having multiple inner voices is human. It only becomes problematic if those voices can’t work together.

Each part of you has a purpose. A trait like endurance can be a strength—or a liability if it leads to prolonged suffering. The key is recognizing when to call on certain inner voices and when to kindly ask them to take a break.

For example, your “anxious” voice might hinder you in a tough conversation—but it's a gift when it whispers caution just before your inner daredevil leaps off a cliff. Find balance. Let your team collaborate.

In relationships, understanding which “team member” is speaking—both in yourself and in your partner—can unlock compassion. Maybe both of you care deeply about fairness, but one channels it through strict rules and the other through rebellion. You're not necessarily wrong for each other—but the conversation needs to happen at the right level.

Being real and fair, really fair

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You, me and what happens in between

Something Feels Off, But What Is It?

You’re in a conversation. It’s friendly. Civil. Maybe even warm.

And yet — something inside you feels tense.

That’s the quiet space between people that often holds more than any words ever could.

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Words Can Lie. Energy Doesn’t.

Sometimes we agree with others just to keep peace.

We smile when we feel unsure.

We nod when we want to run.

But these contradictions don’t disappear.

They linger. They shape the atmosphere.

And others feel it — even if they don’t know why.

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Listen to the “In between”

A relationship isn’t just made of two people.

It’s made of the energy they create between them.

You might think: “I said all the right things.”

But what did you actually transmit?

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How to Be Real — Gently

You don’t have to be brutal to be real.

Try this instead:

• “I’m still processing. Can I get back to you?”

• “I’m feeling conflicted, but I want to be fair.”

• “I care about you — and I’m figuring out how to say this.”

These sentences invite connection. Not war.

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When You’re Real, Connection Grows

When we dare to show up honestly — with kindness and clarity — something shifts.

You feel lighter. The other person feels safer. The space between you softens.

And that’s where something new can begin.

Justice and Humanity—Beyond Politics or Religion

Don’t be afraid to stand up for fairness and peace.

These aren’t abstract ideals. They become real when you support a struggling classmate, call out injustice in your family, or step in to protect a stranger with courage and kindness.

This isn’t about political affiliations or religious dogma. Every movement—political or spiritual—ultimately seeks a better life for its people. What truly matters is how we live out the core value of humanity.

You don’t need to shout your opinions to the world. But if you sense that something is deeply wrong—and you feel a pull to speak up—don’t ignore it. Your perspective might just be what shifts a situation toward healing.

You can live from a place of love, generosity, and strength without needing a label. Your values speak louder than any title ever could.