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Secrets to making your crush like you

A Crush that could change everything

By Amaka Kingsley Published about a year ago 4 min read

Here are some thoughtful and natural approaches:

1. **Be yourself**: Authenticity is key. Pretending to be someone you're not may backfire in the long run.

2. **Show genuine interest**: Take the time to listen and engage with them. Ask questions about their interests, passions, and experiences.

3. **Build confidence**: Confidence is attractive, but not arrogance. Work on your self-esteem and present yourself in a positive light.

4. **Find common interests**: Bond over shared hobbies, goals, or experiences. It creates natural conversation and time spent together.

5. **Be kind and thoughtful**: Small gestures of kindness can make a lasting impression. Show that you care in meaningful ways.

6. **Respect boundaries**: Don’t push or pressure them into liking you. Give them space to be comfortable and grow at their own pace.

7. **Improve yourself**: Focus on becoming the best version of yourself by growing in areas of physical, emotional, and intellectual health.

8. **Be patient**: Sometimes feelings take time to develop. Rushing things might create awkwardness or anxiety. Let it unfold naturally.

9. **Maintain a positive attitude**: Positivity can be contagious. People are naturally drawn to those who make them feel good and bring uplifting energy to their lives.

10. **Show vulnerability**: Letting your guard down in small ways can create a deeper emotional connection. Share personal stories or talk about your dreams and challenges.

11. **Compliment genuinely**: Compliments, when sincere, can make someone feel appreciated and valued. Focus on qualities you truly admire, like their sense of humor or how they treat others.

12. **Develop your sense of humor**: Humor can break the ice and create fun, memorable moments. Lighthearted banter or sharing funny stories can help build rapport.

13. **Be supportive**: Be there for your crush when they’re going through tough times or chasing a goal. Offering emotional support builds trust and shows that you care.

14. **Respect their individuality**: Don’t try to change who they are. Embrace their quirks and differences, which will make them feel seen and respected.

15. **Flirt subtly**: Playful flirting, when done respectfully, can help indicate interest. A smile, playful teasing, or casual touches (when appropriate) can create chemistry.

16. **Dress well and take care of your appearance**: While looks aren't everything, taking care of your hygiene and appearance shows self-respect and can make you feel more confident.

17. **Create opportunities for spending time together**: Find casual, low-pressure ways to spend time with your crush, whether it’s inviting them to group activities or suggesting a shared interest, like watching a movie or grabbing coffee.

18. **Be mysterious, but not aloof**: Don’t reveal everything about yourself at once. Leave some room for curiosity while still showing interest in them.

19. **Surprise them with thoughtfulness**: Small, unexpected gestures—like remembering their favorite snack or sending a kind message—can make someone feel special.

20. **Be adaptable**: Relationships are about compromise and flexibility. Being open to new experiences or perspectives shows maturity and makes you more approachable.

21. **Work on your communication skills**: Clear, engaging conversations are key to building connections. Be a good listener, articulate your thoughts well, and show interest in what they say.

22. **Be mindful of body language**: Non-verbal cues play a huge role in attraction. Open, relaxed body language—like smiling, making eye contact, and facing them when you talk—can make you seem more approachable and interested.

23. **Share meaningful experiences**: Invite them to do things that create shared memories, like going to a concert, exploring new places, or even trying a hobby together. Shared experiences build a stronger bond.

24. **Respect their friends and social circles**: How you interact with your crush's friends can affect how they view you. Being kind, polite, and fun around their friends shows you're thoughtful and can blend into their world.

25. **Be ambitious**: Passion and drive can be attractive traits. When you’re pursuing goals and working on bettering yourself, it shows you’re someone who has purpose and direction in life.

26. **Stay calm under pressure**: How you handle stressful or challenging situations can leave a strong impression. Being composed and level-headed shows maturity and can make you stand out as reliable and supportive.

27. **Be curious about their world**: Take an interest in things that are important to them—whether it’s their job, hobbies, or dreams. When you show curiosity about what makes them tick, it makes them feel valued.

28. **Give thoughtful compliments about their personality**: While compliments about looks are nice, recognizing deeper traits—like their creativity, intelligence, or kindness—will make a stronger impact and show that you see them beyond the surface.

29. **Know when to pull back**: Sometimes, giving someone space to miss you can be effective. If you’re always available, it may lower the sense of excitement. Occasionally pulling back makes the time you spend together more meaningful.

30. **Be patient with their emotions**: Sometimes, people take time to open up or develop romantic feelings. Give them the emotional space they need to feel comfortable around you without pressuring them.

31. **Be a positive influence**: If you can inspire them to be their best self, you’re likely to leave a lasting impression. Encourage them in their pursuits and support their growth.

32. **Practice self-awareness**: Knowing your strengths and areas of improvement makes you more grounded. When you're aware of how you come across, you can adjust to make others feel more comfortable around you.

33. **Be fun to be around**: Find ways to make interactions enjoyable. A playful attitude, spontaneity

Above all, stay respectful of their feelings. If your crush doesn’t reciprocate, it’s important to move on gracefully and remember that healthy relationships are based on mutual affection.

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  • Caitlin Charltonabout a year ago

    An effective list, I love how you elaborate on each. My favourite was #31. *Staying calm under pressure and *being mindful of our body language, very well researched. With this list I honestly don’t think we can go wrong if we follow them, especially the ones that stood out to me.

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