Relationship - How Good It Would Have Been if I Had Known Before

How good it would have been if I had known - when we talk about love life and relationships, we often regret that we didn't think or know some things that might have saved us from a hurt heart… When we fall in love passionately, madly, and especially, when we don't have much experience, we ignore many aspects and we throw ourselves forward with enthusiasm, believing that life will embrace us - and sometimes life slams and knocks us down….

Relationships: how good it would have been if I had known before:

That love is not everything - that it is not the guarantee of happiness. When you first love, it is easy to believe that you need so much to succeed, that if you love yourself, nothing can stop you. And cheerfully ignore the fact that you are not suitable and compatible as a partner because you are too in love.

But without having a common ground, without having an appreciation for the loved one (and not only passion), without understanding each other and without becoming friends, not only lovers, but the relationship also will not last… Because you happen to fall madly in love with who shouldn't

As if dreaming of fairy tales and having idealistic expectations… life calms you down quickly and even disappoints you. What young man does not dream of eternal love, a perfect love, passionate love with a happy ending, "until old age"?

Real-life and relationships, however, are a little slower and never perfect! When you expect too much, when you dream of perfect happiness, a real problem can bring you down too quickly, because it takes you by surprise. Enthusiasm is good, but dreaming and wanting a perfect world makes you vulnerable…

That it is good to listen to what those around you have to say about your loved one! When you are madly in love, nothing and no one matters anymore! You don't care what others say about the object of your love: you know it's perfect of such a thing.

But often you are blind with love and you can idealize your loved one, you can paint it in beautiful colors, as it is not in reality. So it's okay, no matter how much you're in love, to open your ears and think about what your loved ones are telling you about your loved one. Maybe they are wrong: but it is better to listen to them than to reach out with a "blue" heart, hurt, and say "why didn't I listen?"

That you must never forget your true friends! When you are in love, you often tend not to care about others, to focus only on your loved one. You want to be alone with this one and move away from your loved ones, friends who care about you and who suddenly see themselves set aside. You drive them out of your life - and they are the ones who know you and will always help you.

They are the ones you go back to if things don't go so well in the couple's relationship. That's why even when you want to spend every moment with your loved one, you must not forget your friends.

That "hurry spoils things." How good it would have been if I had known… that if you throw yourself forward enthusiastically and take the relationship too far in a short time, that enthusiasm can be paid for with disappointment.

Because any relationship takes time, time to grow and mature, time for the two partners to know each other (in the first months of crazy passion, you just have the feeling that you know the other perfectly, but it's not so ), while the two partners adapt to the relationship, to complement each other.

Time to decide if the two can form a harmonious couple or not. If, however, you are in a hurry to get seriously involved, to move in with your partner, and even to get married shortly after the relationship starts, seeming so romantic and passionate, it is very possible to wake up in a good morning and think that something has changed as if things are no longer working. And that's because you didn't take the time to see if things worked out between you two…

That sometimes "carpe diem" is not such a good idea! When you love, you only care about the present moment, the moment you kiss and caress your partner. Nothing else matters, just the fact that you are happy now! But don't look to the future, don't think about your future goals - do they fit in with your partner?

Do you see him with you in the future? Do you see yourself sharing your life over many years with this person? But does he/she see his / her future with you? Enjoying the present moment is beautiful - but don't forget what you want in the future and think about whether your relationship matches what you want.

That someone just doesn't change - and that you don't have to and can't change a person. From the category of "how good it would have been if I knew" in couple relationships: sometimes you make the mistake of hoping that your partner will change, become more "serious" or give up something you don't like.

That once you have a long and stable relationship, it will become different, as you want. That's not how it works! Don't expect your partner to change - so if you don't like or really mind your partner, instead of fooling yourself that he or she will change, try to accept that this may always be the case or someone else.

As a couple, it means working on it. To maintain a harmonious relationship, you need to adapt to life together and sometimes make compromises. You still have to work hard to maintain love and communication, try to improve things between you, and not let them go by themselves.

When we forget to appreciate the other, to listen to him, to talk to him, to show him that we love him, to appreciate the couple's relationship, the relationship can get stuck and block or even get cold (the closeness between two people must be maintained).

The end is not a difficult one, but it should not be ignored! How good it would have been if I had known that… problems arise in any relationship, and these do not mean giving up and giving up, but overcoming the problem together with your partner if you care about your relationship.

Don't be discouraged just because you have a problem. But don't even try to ignore it, hoping it will go away on its own - because it won't pass, but most likely it will grow.