"REACTION STIMULUS"

I had a massive awakening this week. Since yesterday was Labor Day September 2, 2024, that’d be an astonishing sight to look at. I will be 75 on September 18. This is a time to celebrate this milestone in my life.

Thoughts scrambled through my head yesterday and this morning about how I react to certain stimulus as well as how other folks react to their own environmental stimulus.

For instance, why do we jump start into a feeling or task without critical thinking skills? We all do this type of thing now or “at the moment” because it feels good. I have learned critical thinking skills over the years and through all those years of multitasking in college and living life.

Now I am almost 75 years old and still eccentric, creative, gypsy, boho, hippie all in this life for love, peace, and understanding. A soldier once told me, “Vicki, mom, omg! You are still into peace? You need to realize most of the world doesn’t want peace. So, get over it. Buy a gun.” I replied, “That’s why I promote peace, love, and understanding because I know a lot of folks are mean, calloused bullies and liars.” The soldier just shook his head and said, “Whatever.”

That was 2009 in Ventura, California.

Now to promote peace, love, and understanding one must be very flexible and strong. Flexible due to bullies and narcissistic people will flock at your door trying to knock it down to convince you to behave like they do, walk like they do, and talk like they do. Strong is a virtue as one faces the bullies head on throughout life, to not break under pressure from the mean ones. As we are humans, we either learn to roll with the punches, meditate every day, or ignore bullies and become an introvert. I have learned discernment, when to be an introvert and when to be an extrovert. I have learned time spent alone is for reading, movies, writing, music, etc. and knowing when to fold the cards and quit the game before you are trampled’ upon by who knows what or who wants to destroy you.

I will mention inflation and high rent is a procedure the powers that' be use on us, so we don’t move around, and they have control over us as human beings. I look forward to the day there is rent control again and the rich bullies pay their fair share of taxes. You ask why I placed this topic in this story? Analyze this. If the masses are housed with 60% of their check going towards the rent, then we as regular people have no control or elasticity to be free. This topic is now for another story, another time when I do not abruptly write about rent control in a story about advice for keeping the peace and walking away from bullies.

You asked how this is masterly conducted. Well, strategically and with critical thinking skills to pull you through the rabbit hole of possibilities vs. impossibilities. One should look at the source upon which the verbal or physical abuse came from.

A. Who is the person abusing you?

B. What kind of day are they having?

C. Don’t let them intimidate you.

D. Move forward and step away from the situation!

Then there’s the abuser who will not take no for an answer. They gaslight you into blaming you for their temper or verbal abuse towards you. Don’t let them force their temper onto you because they will then turn your day into pure chaos. The best thing is to walk away from them either by loving them from a distance or cutting them out of your life.

I have learned to cut people out of my life that I believe were never my real friend. I have learned to love from a distance with family members. We need to learn to love ourselves before we can genuinely love another person. We also need to accept that not everyone we meet is kind or good. We need to learn to cry about losing a relationship that we thought was going to last forever. Our heart hurts. Our tears swell up inside affecting our digestive system and our vital organs. Remember the bully or the person who hurt you do not care, and they were never your friend.

As time moves on, we walk, we talk, we read, we dance, we smile, we cry, we love and hate because we are human. We are not superior to anyone, but we have complex different personalities and backgrounds.

I have learned that opposites might attract each other, but the two people in love must have more commonalities than not in common. At least this is my philosophy that I live with every day. I was young, naïve, and too ‘boy crazy’. My advice to all ages and especially younger people that they should get an education, use birth control, and learn to decipher is the person you are loving going accept you for who you are as a human being. Can you accept them as human beings? Once you look at the pros and cons this will help the two of you to either stay together or go your separate ways. This advice is not perfect, nor do I claim that the idea is concrete. However, at almost 75 in 2024, I feel comfortable supplying this information out on the internet to help someone who might just need a thumbs up.

Life is short.

Life can be like a fart.

Life can be fun

In the sun.

Life can be stressful.

Life can be blue.

Life can do what’s best for you.

Live life with gusto

Not to be blue

But shed a tear this year,

If that’s what you need to do

I salute the universe.

I salute the earth.

I salute life and birth.

For what it’s worth

Be kind.

At times

Be aware.

Care.

Move forward to your next adventure. Someone’s adventure might be a walk on the beach. Someone else’s adventure might be a trip around the world. Accept your adventure. Accept their adventure.

Live and live

PEACE OUT!

WRITTEN BY

VICKI LAWANA TRUSSELLI

SEPTEMBER 3, 2024